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by Sam Vara
Wed Aug 22, 2018 6:36 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Being Offended
Replies: 21
Views: 223

Re: Being Offended

I think it is interesting/ironic that from the Western psychological perspective, the exact opposite seems correct: "The weaker the sense of self, the easier it is to be offended" Yes. People think a stronger sense of self makes them stronger. What I've noticed living in a western country is how ea...
by Sam Vara
Tue Aug 21, 2018 12:55 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Being Offended
Replies: 21
Views: 223

Re: Being Offended

I know many examples in India where Christian missionaries are purposely provoking natives, walking around with vishnu on a cross and other provocative gestures. With the number of mobile phones in India currently exceeding three quarters of a billion, those sneaky missionaries will surely be outed...
by Sam Vara
Tue Aug 21, 2018 12:18 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Being Offended
Replies: 21
Views: 223

Re: Being Offended

To disregard all offensive behavior in all its forms is a bit myopic. Humility is easily exploited. Indeed, it is usually best not to disregard offensive behaviour, because that precludes our dealing with it skillfully. We do, however, have a choice as to whether we are personally offended by it. P...
by Sam Vara
Tue Aug 21, 2018 10:56 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Being Offended
Replies: 21
Views: 223

Re: Being Offended

Would it be inaccurate to say that this is an example of a value replaced by another value? "the Buddha told us not to get offended" being the new value? I'm not sure - it's only a dimly-remembered off-the-cuff quote by somebody else. But it might be more useful to think of it as being an example o...
by Sam Vara
Tue Aug 21, 2018 10:35 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Being Offended
Replies: 21
Views: 223

Re: Being Offended

And yet the primary sign of a spiritual/religious person is that they easily feel offended. Really? I have never heard of that in reference to Dharma practitioners. Maybe you are thinking of some people who are thought to be in touch with their feelings or intuitive etc.? I can't find a link, but a...
by Sam Vara
Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:27 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Authenticity. From: Why Read the Suttas?
Replies: 33
Views: 550

Re: Authenticity. From: Why Read the Suttas?

I also don't see how you're in a position of authority to tell me I shouldn't make such posts on account of me being a newbie, as I do not see how I am breaking any of the ToS. To add to that, this is the General Therevada discussion section "A discussion on all aspects of Theravāda Buddhism ". If ...
by Sam Vara
Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:34 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Why do we have resentment towards the people are very close to us?
Replies: 18
Views: 215

Re: Why do we have resentment towards the people are very close to us?

in past lives over and over Agee but it is how we react to others. What about the reaction from others? We can only be responsible for our own reaction. Part of the problem is that we challenge others' reactions, thinking that they are "wrong" for reacting to us in that way, and trying to fix their...
by Sam Vara
Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:30 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Why do we have resentment towards the people are very close to us?
Replies: 18
Views: 215

Re: Why do we have resentment towards the people are very close to us?

SarathW wrote:
Thu Aug 09, 2018 11:32 pm

Thanks all.
Most of you share similar ideas.
The question is now how can we solve this problem?
Heedfulness. We can make ourselves aware of the problematic nature of our interactions with people who are close to us, and catch ourselves each time the resentment appears.
by Sam Vara
Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:25 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: New member!!
Replies: 6
Views: 61

Re: New member!!

Hi Billy,

Welcome to Dhamma Wheel! :hello:
by Sam Vara
Thu Aug 09, 2018 8:42 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Newbie
Replies: 6
Views: 123

Re: Newbie

Hi Eleanor, and welcome to Dhamma Wheel. :hello:
by Sam Vara
Thu Aug 09, 2018 6:20 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Why do we have resentment towards the people are very close to us?
Replies: 18
Views: 215

Re: Why do we have resentment towards the people are very close to us?

One way of looking at it is that we have the strongest expectations that those close to us will do what we want, or will make us happy. But they don't always do that.
by Sam Vara
Tue Aug 07, 2018 12:45 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Third Eye Meditation
Replies: 51
Views: 987

Re: Third Eye Meditation

I think you don't need to interpret, because often the meanings are explained within the Sutta itself Thats right, I was just demonstrating loosely to your question about meanings of the names and places given in suttas, in that there is hidden meanings to some of the literal translations, which ca...
by Sam Vara
Tue Aug 07, 2018 10:00 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why the dhamma ayatana comprises of rupa and nama ?
Replies: 8
Views: 148

Re: Why the dhamma ayatana comprises of rupa and nama ?

Do you mean as in mano ? As in mano, yes, but I think mano is used to refer to the internal sense base, whereas its external counterpart is the dhammayatana; the thoughts and mental constructions, etc. Here "'The six external sense-media should be known': thus was it said. And in reference to what ...
by Sam Vara
Tue Aug 07, 2018 8:24 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why the dhamma ayatana comprises of rupa and nama ?
Replies: 8
Views: 148

Re: Why the dhamma ayatana comprises of rupa and nama ?

Dinsdale wrote:
Tue Aug 07, 2018 8:17 am
James Tan wrote:
Sun Aug 05, 2018 3:39 pm
In which sutta mention the dhamma ayatana comprises of rupa and nama ?
I'm not familiar with "dhamma ayatana" - what exactly is it?
The thought sense base.
by Sam Vara
Tue Aug 07, 2018 6:52 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Quick death is worse than torture?
Replies: 21
Views: 381

Re: Quick death is worse than torture?

Yes i understand the value of human life. which is why euthaniasia even voluntary is something of wrong view. But in this case it wasn't kill instead of torture, it was kill him quickly instead of torturing him to death. that sorta confuses me even when taking into account the value of human existe...