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by Sam Vara
Sun Feb 25, 2018 8:04 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Survivalism and Dhamma
Replies: 2
Views: 13

Re: Survivalism and Dhamma

I'm not a "prepper", so please forgive me for a purely facetious answer.

I think the best way for a Buddhist "prepper" to protect themselves against future disasters is to accumulate merit, and develop wisdom.
by Sam Vara
Sat Feb 24, 2018 6:04 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hi from New York City
Replies: 8
Views: 56

Re: Hi from New York City

Welcome! :hello: It's good to see you here.
by Sam Vara
Sat Feb 24, 2018 1:11 pm
Forum: Modern Interpretations
Topic: teaching to monastics vs lay people
Replies: 16
Views: 218

Re: teaching to monastics vs lay people

What do we do with "such and such a teaching was taught to devas"?
by Sam Vara
Fri Feb 23, 2018 11:23 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: "Is there a Self?"
Replies: 151
Views: 2497

Re: "Is there a Self?"

Let me separate two similar concepts of "self". One is a dynamical , dependently originated "unifier of experience". The other is the fixed "unifier of experience". The first is what can be thought to be the "empirical self". The second is the "trascendental" self , which is the "mark" that renders...
by Sam Vara
Fri Feb 23, 2018 11:05 pm
Forum: Modern Interpretations
Topic: teaching to monastics vs lay people
Replies: 16
Views: 218

Re: teaching to monastics vs lay people

'such and such discourse was taught to monks not to lay people' even on matters of very basic doctrine is there any truth to this and to what extent is it not true I would have thought that the "truth" of whether a particular discourse or doctrine was taught to a specified group is now far beyond h...
by Sam Vara
Fri Feb 23, 2018 10:36 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: "Is there a Self?"
Replies: 151
Views: 2497

Re: "Is there a Self?"

binocular wrote:
Fri Feb 23, 2018 7:25 pm
You want to talk about the true, indentical subject,
Not really. Apart from it being a good candidate for selfhood, I don't have much to say about it at all. As far as your posts are concerned, I've mainly pointed out that you seem to be confusing it with objects of consciousness.
by Sam Vara
Fri Feb 23, 2018 10:27 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Value of interfaith studies
Replies: 53
Views: 1181

Re: Value of interfaith studies

To your first point, no. As to how to cultivate, my only guess (not much more than that) is stay with intense one-minded focus (ekagrata) (once one gets to the 4th jnana) and non-attachment. The latter is more helpful I suspect. Yes, conceptual pondering is valuable & needed to help us drain our sw...
by Sam Vara
Fri Feb 23, 2018 6:16 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Value of interfaith studies
Replies: 53
Views: 1181

Re: Value of interfaith studies

Quite so Sam, but as long as the dichotomy of knower & object of knowledge operates, then we are in the area of conceptual knowing. I am not suggesting that all non-conceptual knowing garners the identical result, only that conceptual thinking is a tangled web or better, a circular trap. Gotama bec...
by Sam Vara
Fri Feb 23, 2018 5:48 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Value of interfaith studies
Replies: 53
Views: 1181

Re: Value of interfaith studies

The key appears to be that thinking or cognizing conceptually will not take one beyond samsara. It often just tangles us up even more. Yet there is a way knowing directly, which interfaith studies discover in many non-Buddhist paths. I take your point, but the problem remains that although differen...
by Sam Vara
Fri Feb 23, 2018 2:59 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Value of interfaith studies
Replies: 53
Views: 1181

Re: Value of interfaith studies

Pseudobabble wrote:
Fri Feb 23, 2018 1:31 pm
DooDoot wrote:
Fri Feb 23, 2018 11:36 am
Pseudobabble wrote:
Fri Feb 23, 2018 11:26 am
Assuming you are correct about DO, and other matters.
I personally have no doubts about DO.
Whether you have doubts is a separate matter from whether you are correct or not.
:goodpost: :thumbsup:
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 4:10 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

rightviewftw wrote:
Thu Feb 22, 2018 3:50 pm
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Interesting stuff, but it does look as if there are possible pitfalls for one who approaches it unwisely. Thanks for the info, rightviewftw.
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 3:43 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

rightviewftw wrote:
Thu Feb 22, 2018 3:31 pm
I came to buddhism from the nofap/mgtow community
I had to look those up!
i was not that smart but nobody was teaching this either :/
Yes, I get your point. The 5 precepts will be enough to protect you, though. Inside or outside of a relationship.
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 3:18 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

if you put them these students together without imposing rules of conduct on them B will distract A and might even convince A of his wrong view. Ah, rules of conduct. I would have thought that most Buddhists live by some of them, don't they? And I would have thought that if a Buddhist (or anyone, r...
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 3:10 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

The non-Buddhist wife is risking health and life and possibly severe kammic consequences to provide worldly pleasures in which the Buddhist husband can, apparently innocently, enjoy. A Buddhist wife wouldn't do that. What exactly are these things that non-Buddhist wives do that are so risky? I'd li...
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 2:47 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

rightviewftw wrote:
Thu Feb 22, 2018 2:36 pm
Well change the addict to a person, change the sober for 8FNP, change the crack to sensuality and the crack-house to Samsara you will see the connection there.
I can't see any connection, I'm afraid. Try it again with a plain account rather than a lurid metaphor and I'll see if I get it then.
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 2:33 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

binocular wrote:
Thu Feb 22, 2018 2:30 pm
You think it is acceptable that other people shoulder the costs of your pleasures?
Not unless they have incurred that particular debt.

But what's that got to do with marriage to a non-Buddhist?
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 2:32 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

Simile of a crack-addict trying to stay sober whilst living in a crackhouse comes to mind :thinking: Because that is what it is like basically. Binocular suggesting why not take the neighbour along with the drugs to a retreat. Binocular was talking about marriage to a non-Buddhist. You think that's...
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 2:22 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

Strange interpretation. It's not about wanting to limit their pleasures. Your original point was: Male Buddhists should put their wedding ring where their mouth is and marry female Buddhists who have at least as much dedication to the Dhamma as they do. That way, they wouldn't be getting the best o...
by Sam Vara
Thu Feb 22, 2018 2:05 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Structuring lay life
Replies: 64
Views: 676

Re: Structuring lay life

Male Buddhists should put their wedding ring where their mouth is and marry female Buddhists who have at least as much dedication to the Dhamma as they do. That way, they wouldn't be getting the best of both worlds anymore. The best of both worlds? I was talking about male Buddhists who are married...