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by Sam Vara
Wed Oct 23, 2019 2:59 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: "Life was never meant to be a struggle" --?
Replies: 13
Views: 189

Re: "Life was never meant to be a struggle" --?

So much here depends on definitions, but yes, I think it would be possible for an accumulation of good kamma to give unenlightened beings a very easy and trouble-free life. In other words, the deva realm ... Yes, either literally, as in a realm other than this one, or metaphorically, as a type of c...
by Sam Vara
Wed Oct 23, 2019 11:01 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Giving water to monks
Replies: 2
Views: 36

Re: Giving water to monks

I think you are just reading too much into it, he probably just did not want the water. He may of also had a water bottle in his bag, which most do as far as my experience goes(myself included). Water is basically the ONLY thing that monks are allowed to take, of course in the Buddha's day that was...
by Sam Vara
Wed Oct 23, 2019 10:26 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Giving water to monks
Replies: 2
Views: 36

Giving water to monks

A while ago, I drove a monk (Thai Forest Tradition) on a long car journey. We started after his meal, but I provided him with water to drink for the journey: a plastic bottle and some plastic cups next to him in the storage area. I pointed this out to him. At the end of the long hot journey, I notic...
by Sam Vara
Tue Oct 22, 2019 3:31 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Chanting after/during a family members death ?
Replies: 1
Views: 69

Re: Chanting after/during a family members death ?

For sick people, a good idea is to chant or recite any of the versions of the 7 enlightenment factors ( satta bojjhanga ). This version is a good one: https://suttacentral.net/sn46.14/en/sujato For chanting, there is this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxb-Lx0YAFs Just reciting is fine. Dedicate t...
by Sam Vara
Tue Oct 22, 2019 3:14 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Is offering alcohol, drugs and smokes etc to a friend or another person, making demerits for your self?
Replies: 27
Views: 481

Re: Is offering alcohol, drugs and smokes etc to a friend or another person, making demerits for your self?

Negative kamma can be made in the mind only with lustful, angry, or deluded thoughts. Is it possible to knowingly, deliberately offer someone alcohol, drugs, and cigarettes, but without lustful, angry, or deluded thoughts? I think so, yes. In the informal gift economy which operates in our village,...
by Sam Vara
Tue Oct 22, 2019 2:54 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: "Life was never meant to be a struggle" --?
Replies: 13
Views: 189

Re: "Life was never meant to be a struggle" --?

I think life for the unenlightened is a struggle or not depending on their kamma. Do you think it is possible (in accordance with Buddhist doctrine), that an unenlightened person can live a struggle-free life? I mean, that would be an extraordinary combination: unenlightened and struggle-free --! S...
by Sam Vara
Mon Oct 21, 2019 2:24 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: "Life was never meant to be a struggle" --?
Replies: 13
Views: 189

Re: "Life was never meant to be a struggle" --?

There is this, which might fit: Easy is life for the shameless one who is impudent as a crow, is backbiting and forward, arrogant and corrupt. Difficult is life for the modest one who always seeks purity, is detached and unassuming, clean in life, and discerning. (Dhammapada) I think life for the un...
by Sam Vara
Mon Oct 21, 2019 9:59 am
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: Can I keep Pithy as my meditation object?
Replies: 11
Views: 209

Re: Can I keep Pithy as my meditation object?

I think Leigh Brasington recommends focusing on piti once it arises. If I were you, I would try it and see if it is a stable enough thing for you to focus on. You are lucky if it arises every time you meditate, so try it and see how it goes.
by Sam Vara
Mon Oct 21, 2019 9:55 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: how to stop lie permanently?
Replies: 21
Views: 218

Re: how to stop lie permanently?

Make haste slowly. Stop telling lies that are pointless, or which clearly harm people. Take strength from your successes, and use the pleasant feeling which arises to motivate yourself to stop telling other lies which you find more necessary. You need to get a sense of momentum and progress. The sut...
by Sam Vara
Wed Oct 16, 2019 9:58 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: A Buddhist monk (Dalai lama) hugging an American nun.
Replies: 49
Views: 779

Re: A Buddhist monk (Dalai lama) hugging an American nun.

No, if a hand is offered, then monks can appear a bit rude and cold if they do not reciprocate. Of course, they would not initiate the contact. Okay. I don't have a problem with that. I once had to visit the local Catholic priest, and he offered me his hand. The man is a monk! I was this _ _ close ...
by Sam Vara
Wed Oct 16, 2019 9:44 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: A Buddhist monk (Dalai lama) hugging an American nun.
Replies: 49
Views: 779

Re: A Buddhist monk (Dalai lama) hugging an American nun.

binocular wrote:
Wed Oct 16, 2019 9:31 pm
I just hope monks aren't the ones to offer to shake hands.
No, if a hand is offered, then monks can appear a bit rude and cold if they do not reciprocate. Of course, they would not initiate the contact.
by Sam Vara
Wed Oct 16, 2019 8:17 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: A Buddhist monk (Dalai lama) hugging an American nun.
Replies: 49
Views: 779

Re: A Buddhist monk (Dalai lama) hugging an American nun.

As far as I remember only if bhikkhu touches a woman with lustful mind would be an offense. Assuming we're not talking about situations where he saves her from a river or some such -- why would he touch her in the first place?? In situations where monks are sharing spaces with women, it often just ...
by Sam Vara
Wed Oct 16, 2019 2:49 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: A Buddhist monk (Dalai lama) hugging an American nun.
Replies: 49
Views: 779

Re: A Buddhist monk (Dalai lama) hugging an American nun.

....and the master turned to the young monk and said:

"Are you still embracing that nun? I let her go a long time ago!"
by Sam Vara
Mon Oct 14, 2019 9:59 pm
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Power and Oppression in Western Monasteries
Replies: 42
Views: 701

Re: Power and Oppression in Western Monasteries

if the lay person is a resident they technically become an upasaka, then yes you can ask them for things using the money from the sangha(they may have a monastery debit card when driving monks/doing chores), Is it so? I thought if the monk is not invited and not sick he cannot ask for anything from...