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by Sadge
Wed Sep 11, 2013 3:53 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Getting used to sobriety
Replies: 25
Views: 3936

Re: Getting used to sobriety

Finally I know it is out of my system. Man was I a stroppy person for a good 3 weeks. Done done done.
by Sadge
Wed Aug 14, 2013 7:21 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Getting used to sobriety
Replies: 25
Views: 3936

Re: Getting used to sobriety

Thanks everyone for your support.

I reckon I'm making this sound worse than it is!

Think I'm over the hump with nicotine, feeling much calmer today. Man. I have nothing else to give up! Amazing!
by Sadge
Mon Aug 12, 2013 9:40 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Getting used to sobriety
Replies: 25
Views: 3936

Re: Getting used to sobriety

5 months sober apart from nicotine. 3 days 100% sober.... And fell off the wagon. Giving up nicotine creates SO much anger. I gave in to dukkha and had some beers. They were horrible! I felt a million times worse! More anger, more frustration. Very useful lesson to learn.... Alcohol makes you think ...
by Sadge
Tue Jul 16, 2013 7:44 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: I want to scream at my husband
Replies: 11
Views: 2275

Re: I want to scream at my husband

It went well, we had a frank discussion, he threw away all the drugs. We will see how things go.
by Sadge
Sat Jul 13, 2013 9:21 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: I want to scream at my husband
Replies: 11
Views: 2275

Re: I want to scream at my husband

Thank you, it's good not to feel alone. You are right a frank discussion with an ultimatum is the best way to deal with it rather than angry screaming. Your also right if I issue an ultimatum I need to follow through with it. Better make sure the ultimatum is sensible. Just hope I can be strong. Cry...
by Sadge
Sat Jul 13, 2013 8:42 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: I want to scream at my husband
Replies: 11
Views: 2275

I want to scream at my husband

There is anger so this post is unlikely to contain skillful words. My husband disrespects me, he lies to me about illegal drugs and expects me to pick up the pieces and forgive him. Apart from the drug issue that comes up every 1-2 months we have a really good loving relationship. This morning I hav...
by Sadge
Mon May 06, 2013 4:03 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Serious back pain when sitting
Replies: 7
Views: 1464

Re: Serious back pain when sitting

Thanks, I'm starting yoga classes next month, maybe that will help.
by Sadge
Mon May 06, 2013 3:10 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Serious back pain when sitting
Replies: 7
Views: 1464

Serious back pain when sitting

I find it so uncomfortable to sit in half lotus or just crossed legged, I want too, but it hurts and I find it difficult to get a full breath. I just sit in a chair or lean against something normally so it's fine, but I wonder if I'm sitting wrong!? Sit up straight it's so much effort and I can't br...
by Sadge
Mon May 06, 2013 11:03 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Buddhism & overcoming traumatic experiences?
Replies: 12
Views: 2436

Re: Buddhism & overcoming traumatic experiences?

Mindfulness, mindfulness, mindfulness. Getting distance and a non judgemental acceptance of traumatic memories is hugely helpful.
by Sadge
Mon Apr 29, 2013 8:34 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Dāma. Sīla, Banana
Replies: 8
Views: 897

Re: Dāma. Sīla, Banana

Got it. Love it. I mean, just noticing the desire surrounding it ;)
by Sadge
Mon Apr 29, 2013 6:51 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Dāma. Sīla, Banana
Replies: 8
Views: 897

Re: Dāma. Sīla, Banana

Ow I don't get it :(
by Sadge
Mon Apr 29, 2013 6:49 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Getting used to sobriety
Replies: 25
Views: 3936

Re: Getting used to sobriety

Still going, getting used to it more now. Just watching thoughts of 'one won't hurt'. Minds also saying 'wish it was longer' just noticing the desire for a longer time sober. Why does nicotine count as an intoxicating substance? It doesn't have any recreational value (as in it doesn't get you high, ...
by Sadge
Wed Apr 24, 2013 8:08 pm
Forum: Discovering Theravāda
Topic: Boring newbie questions
Replies: 7
Views: 1964

Re: Boring newbie questions

Oo hello. No not really, well I have opinions about the nuns order but that that is another thread. I used to go loads but I've seriously got out of the habit. Really need to put more effort in, so lucky to live within driving distance from a theravada monastery. It's only 40min down the road. Do yo...
by Sadge
Sun Apr 21, 2013 8:02 pm
Forum: Discovering Theravāda
Topic: Boring newbie questions
Replies: 7
Views: 1964

Re: Boring newbie questions

Thanks people :D
by Sadge
Sun Apr 21, 2013 8:00 pm
Forum: Discovering Theravāda
Topic: Jhana? Confusion. Com
Replies: 14
Views: 1841

Re: Jhana? Confusion. Com

Hm you have a point. Think a bit more information about dhamma is what I need. I'm writing out the dhammapada :shock: