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by perkele
Mon Sep 16, 2019 6:22 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Right Speech
Replies: 51
Views: 1561

Re: Right Speech

There is this: Now at that time a large number of monks, after the meal, on returning from their alms round, had gathered at the meeting hall and were engaged in many kinds of bestial topics of conversation: conversation about kings, robbers, & ministers of state; armies, alarms, & battles; food & d...
by perkele
Mon Sep 16, 2019 5:27 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: silly question
Replies: 6
Views: 318

Re: silly question

As a non-native English speaker, I will try to pinpoint the difference in usage which I seem to have picked up: refrain: not do something at this moment , for one instance , not do it this time (but maybe later, at some other time) abstain: not do something ever , or at least not for some determined...
by perkele
Mon Sep 16, 2019 4:56 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Universe and its constant change....purpose
Replies: 38
Views: 974

Re: Universe and its constant change....purpose

Why would there need to be any purpose behind it all? I do find it fundamentally mysterious that there is something rather than nothing (← funny, thought-provoking but inconclusive YouTube video, musing about that very topic), and I have been puzzled by that mystery from time to time, since as long...
by perkele
Mon Sep 16, 2019 4:56 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Universe and its constant change....purpose
Replies: 38
Views: 974

Re: Universe and its constant change....purpose

What I am wondering about tonight has to do with the universe. Since the Buddha felt no need for there to be a creator God involved in the creation of our universe and everything is in a constant state of change. There is no Abrahamic-style God in Buddhism, but there is Brahma who is in charge of c...
by perkele
Mon Sep 16, 2019 4:55 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Universe and its constant change....purpose
Replies: 38
Views: 974

Re: Universe and its constant change....purpose

<offtopic> I ask because it's one thing to say what you believe, and another to say "the Buddha said" if he didn't, because he regarded that as a form of slander. Metta, Paul. :) Sure, and it would be slander if there were no basis in the canon and tradition for my admittedly general/broad statement...
by perkele
Tue Sep 03, 2019 4:11 pm
Forum: Suggestion box
Topic: Spelling
Replies: 14
Views: 404

Re: Spelling

"Fluent speakers" can still be lazy with their spelling That is definately the case. And they often don't appreciate being corrected, either. Don't all browsers have a built in spell checker? Seems like they have had them for about 15 years. Anyone who wasn't using the browser's built in spell chec...
by perkele
Tue Sep 03, 2019 4:00 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: The Bodhisatta entered this world via a womb; and women can be so much more than just sex objects.
Replies: 6
Views: 388

Re: The Bodhisatta entered this world via a womb; and women can be so much more than just sex objects.

women can be so much more than just sex objects. And you want brownie points for that insight? I figure, he has had (IMO unwarranted) pangs of conscience for saying in another thread that "Sex pleasure is a dead end (much like a woman's vagina, which ultimately leads to a uterus)", which he thought...
by perkele
Sat Jun 29, 2019 6:57 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Accepting pain and avoiding it at the same time
Replies: 15
Views: 475

Re: Accepting pain and avoiding it at the same time

That being said, I can walk carefully trying to not to stub my toe, but still remain calm when I do stub my toe, giving it proper attention so that the physical sensation does not give rise to mental displeasure. But we're not talking about stubbed toes, we're talking about serious and chronic pain...
by perkele
Sat Jun 29, 2019 3:18 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Accepting pain and avoiding it at the same time
Replies: 15
Views: 475

Re: Accepting pain and avoiding it at the same time

Some OT here: Pleasant feeling is preferable to neither-pleasant-nor-unpleasant feeling, which in turn is preferable to unpleasant feeling. IIRC there is a teaching somewhere in the suttas where the Buddha says something like: neutral feeling, if rightly understood, is preferable to pleasent feeling...
by perkele
Tue Jun 04, 2019 2:35 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Negative thoughts
Replies: 14
Views: 448

Re: Negative thoughts

How do you handle negative thoughts that have just popped into your head unbidden without volitional? I don't want to say "out" because that can be more aversion. And I don't want them to turn into negative feeling tones. How do you manage negative thoughts in daily life? Thank you I remember back ...
by perkele
Sun May 26, 2019 6:49 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 3045

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

I found it questionable whether these concerns generally translate into "dhammic" motivations, which, again, is something I thought Master DooDoot might have been implying. This is actually still not clear to me. Both: a) whether that is something Master DooDoot was implying b) whether it is true I...
by perkele
Tue May 21, 2019 2:38 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 3045

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

It seems obvious that women do, from a biological viewpoint at least, have to be more concerned about the future and results of copulation than men. :twothumbsup: I found it questionable whether these concerns generally translate into "dhammic" motivations, which, again, is something I thought Mast...
by perkele
Tue May 21, 2019 2:14 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 3045

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

Reading the OP again, DooDoot was clear to begin with: When I was young, I used to think I was the sexual object of women's thoughts & v̶i̶s̶a̶-̶a̶-̶v̶e̶r̶s̶a̶ vice versa . But when I grew up, I discovered the underlying intentions of women were far more different or dhammic than merely sexual. Tha...
by perkele
Wed May 15, 2019 3:17 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 3045

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

@SDC Thanks for giving my questions some thought. Doesn't seem as though DD's original statement said that women's motives "for being horny" were more dhammic, he said: I discovered the underlying intentions of women were far more different or dhammic than merely sexual ...which seems to say he came...
by perkele
Wed May 15, 2019 3:00 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 3045

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

@budo You are describing mundane biological realities. I don't see how exactly this relates to the questions I posed. But you mention celibacy in relation to the weakness of men: When men are weak, they are addicted to sex. When men are addicted to sex, they cannot spiritually mature. Hence why Celi...