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by perkele
Sat Jun 29, 2019 6:57 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Accepting pain and avoiding it at the same time
Replies: 15
Views: 347

Re: Accepting pain and avoiding it at the same time

That being said, I can walk carefully trying to not to stub my toe, but still remain calm when I do stub my toe, giving it proper attention so that the physical sensation does not give rise to mental displeasure. But we're not talking about stubbed toes, we're talking about serious and chronic pain...
by perkele
Sat Jun 29, 2019 3:18 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Accepting pain and avoiding it at the same time
Replies: 15
Views: 347

Re: Accepting pain and avoiding it at the same time

Some OT here: Pleasant feeling is preferable to neither-pleasant-nor-unpleasant feeling, which in turn is preferable to unpleasant feeling. IIRC there is a teaching somewhere in the suttas where the Buddha says something like: neutral feeling, if rightly understood, is preferable to pleasent feeling...
by perkele
Tue Jun 04, 2019 2:35 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Negative thoughts
Replies: 14
Views: 347

Re: Negative thoughts

How do you handle negative thoughts that have just popped into your head unbidden without volitional? I don't want to say "out" because that can be more aversion. And I don't want them to turn into negative feeling tones. How do you manage negative thoughts in daily life? Thank you I remember back ...
by perkele
Sun May 26, 2019 6:49 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 2528

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

I found it questionable whether these concerns generally translate into "dhammic" motivations, which, again, is something I thought Master DooDoot might have been implying. This is actually still not clear to me. Both: a) whether that is something Master DooDoot was implying b) whether it is true I...
by perkele
Tue May 21, 2019 2:38 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 2528

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

It seems obvious that women do, from a biological viewpoint at least, have to be more concerned about the future and results of copulation than men. :twothumbsup: I found it questionable whether these concerns generally translate into "dhammic" motivations, which, again, is something I thought Mast...
by perkele
Tue May 21, 2019 2:14 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 2528

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

Reading the OP again, DooDoot was clear to begin with: When I was young, I used to think I was the sexual object of women's thoughts & v̶i̶s̶a̶-̶a̶-̶v̶e̶r̶s̶a̶ vice versa . But when I grew up, I discovered the underlying intentions of women were far more different or dhammic than merely sexual. Tha...
by perkele
Wed May 15, 2019 3:17 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 2528

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

@SDC Thanks for giving my questions some thought. Doesn't seem as though DD's original statement said that women's motives "for being horny" were more dhammic, he said: I discovered the underlying intentions of women were far more different or dhammic than merely sexual ...which seems to say he came...
by perkele
Wed May 15, 2019 3:00 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 2528

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

@budo You are describing mundane biological realities. I don't see how exactly this relates to the questions I posed. But you mention celibacy in relation to the weakness of men: When men are weak, they are addicted to sex. When men are addicted to sex, they cannot spiritually mature. Hence why Celi...
by perkele
Wed May 15, 2019 2:58 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 2528

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

Aloka wrote:
Tue May 14, 2019 7:35 am
Are you seriously expecting any women looking in to answer you?
No one expects the Spanish inquisition. But one can definately hope for and welcome their input on such an interesting topic.

The OP was not addressed only at women, however.
by perkele
Wed May 15, 2019 2:55 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 2528

Re: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

First, it should be understood the grave chauvinistic error of the OP in equating the word "dhammic" with "Nibbana". But where has the OP ever done this? The OP asked for clarification how the term "dhammic" is to be understood, offering a number of examples of how it might be meant. "Leading to ni...
by perkele
Tue May 14, 2019 2:36 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?
Replies: 66
Views: 2528

Do women have more "dhammic" underlying motives for being horny than men?

I thought it might be good to ask this as a new topic. The following is quoted from another thread. When I was young, I used to think I was the sexual object of women's thoughts & v̶i̶s̶a̶-̶a̶-̶v̶e̶r̶s̶a̶ vice versa . But when I grew up, I discovered the underlying intentions of women were far more ...
by perkele
Wed May 01, 2019 10:58 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: 'The Tightest Addiction' Poll
Replies: 44
Views: 1101

Re: 'The Tightest Addiction' Poll

So you say conceit (asmi-mana) involves subtle views which are distinct from any kind of self-view? It seems it involves a subtle view of existence. Also “I am better” if you include that sentiment as a view. That makes sense to me. Thanks. I just asked to clarify. The Khemaka Sutta has been quoted...
by perkele
Wed May 01, 2019 4:07 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: 'The Tightest Addiction' Poll
Replies: 44
Views: 1101

Re: 'The Tightest Addiction' Poll

clw_uk wrote:
Wed May 01, 2019 2:13 pm
Stream-enterer - Self view goes

Non-returner - sensual desire

Arahant - conceit
clw_uk wrote:
Wed May 01, 2019 2:20 pm
Budo
Conceit is an activity called "I making"
Yes, which involves subtle views.
So you say conceit (asmi-mana) involves subtle views which are distinct from any kind of self-view?
by perkele
Mon Apr 29, 2019 2:24 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Lying to avoid hurting someone
Replies: 20
Views: 724

Re: Lying to avoid hurting someone

It's possible that people will say that you should maintain this precept regardless of the damage that does. My guess is that they are either social isolates who don't have insight into the complexities involved, or else engaged in a form of virtue-signalling. My view is that you did the right thin...
by perkele
Sun Apr 28, 2019 2:35 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Generosity as Poison
Replies: 132
Views: 2069

Re: Generosity as Poison

So, according to you, the attachment or craving lies in the physical object of possession? And consequently, the surefire way of forcing another person towards wishlessness and nibbana is to rob them of everything? What a stupid idea. (Btw., who is "Sayadaw"? Sayadaw is some title in Burmese monasti...