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by manas
Sun Dec 17, 2017 7:37 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Worry about kids - is there any way to avoid it, or is this just life?
Replies: 9
Views: 149

Re: Worry about kids - is there any way to avoid it, or is this just life?

Greetings manas, I tend not to worry unnecessarily about my children. I see that worrying would not improve their welfare or the quality of my parenting, so I don't do it. Metta, Paul. :) True statement there, retro. I must admit I'm getting better over time, with not getting involved in worry, sin...
by manas
Sun Dec 17, 2017 7:25 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Worry about kids - is there any way to avoid it, or is this just life?
Replies: 9
Views: 149

Re: Worry about kids - is there any way to avoid it, or is this just life?

I find that the Brahma Viharas are helpful. Four wholesome mental states. When your kids are suffering - compassion, and taking what action you can to help them. When there isn't anything to be done to help - equanimity. When they experience wholesome happiness - empathetic joy. When you're just wo...
by manas
Sun Dec 17, 2017 7:12 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Worry about kids - is there any way to avoid it, or is this just life?
Replies: 9
Views: 149

Re: Worry about kids - is there any way to avoid it, or is this just life?

.......... Doodoot, I find virtually all of what you have written, as though all you are trying to do, is seek to criticize, not in a helpful way, but as if to cast aspersions on either my faith in the Dhamma, or my parenting. I'm not a nihilist and I'm regarded by folks in real life, as a good fat...
by manas
Sat Dec 16, 2017 9:16 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Worry about kids - is there any way to avoid it, or is this just life?
Replies: 9
Views: 149

Worry about kids - is there any way to avoid it, or is this just life?

From just average folks, I don't get much solace: "yep, that's how it will always be, you never stop worrying about them!" or words to that effect. Great, so I will only find peace from worry, once I'm dead. :D A friend in the spiritual life (not exactly the Dhamma we follow, but close enough to rel...
by manas
Thu Dec 14, 2017 10:52 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Stephen Batchelor's “After Buddhism.” Yale University Press, 2015
Replies: 22
Views: 2305

Re: Stephen Batchelor's “After Buddhism.” Yale University Press, 2015

I'm sure Batchelor is an eminent scholar of Buddhism, and has some good contributions to make in that area, but I'm glad the Pali Suttas were handed down, one would presume with a general intent of word-for-word accuracy, over the last few thousand years by Monastics , rather than by laypeople, howe...
by manas
Sat Dec 09, 2017 5:56 pm
Forum: Classical Theravāda
Topic: Path vs Fruit of stream-entry
Replies: 8
Views: 718

Re: Path vs Fruit of stream-entry

This sutta seems to imply, that there are levels of the Path to Stream-entry, as far as I can surmise, and that the transition from Path to Fruit could take as long as the rest of one's current lifetime: Viññana Sutta: Consciousness translated from the Pali by Thanissaro Bhikkhu © 2004 At Savatthi. ...
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 8:20 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 46
Views: 523

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

After a lot of satipatthana/vipassana meditation, perhaps being aware of sensations, or whatever kind of satipatthana/vipassana one does... you gradually get a lot of practise just observing aversion to small things, like a pain in the knee, or boredom, or someone sniffing annoyingly in the meditat...
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 8:17 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 46
Views: 523

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

bodom wrote:
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:11 pm
Let the odour stop at the nose. Don't let it enter the heart to give rise to aversion. "In the sensed is only the sensed Bahiya..."

:namaste:
Hi Bodom, this is of course quite profound, and despite my current situation , it is something to work on... :anjali:
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:44 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 46
Views: 523

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

Sorry I have to just sum up, but my eyes get sore, if I go on too long. Thank you to everyone, whether I got around to replying specifically to your post, or not. I've received much wholesome, skilful advice. But, I think I've figured out, what is appropriate for me, at this time. Just as I can hand...
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:23 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 46
Views: 523

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

My view is that I think the Buddha is suggesting another way here I think you are correct; but maybe I'm not quite ready for it. I'm gravitating to Retro's suggestion regarding the Sabbasava sutta... in my defense, I actually do have a weak stomach at times, no kidding. Once, the combined smells of...
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:09 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 46
Views: 523

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

SarathW wrote:
Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:42 am
just change carriages?
Just imagine the garbage collectors, plumbers and doctors think the same way.
Do you have any respect for them?
Have you eaten durian?
What about your partner fart inside the doona?
:tongue:
Lucky for me, I'm terminally single nowadays, and a musician by trade. :)
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:03 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 46
Views: 523

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

Greetings Manas, I think MN 2: Sabbasava Sutta is a good place to start. The sutta summarises the situation as follows... "Bhikkhus! There are āsavas that should be removed through vision, āsavas that should be removed through restraint, āsavas that should be removed through proper use [of requisit...
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 2:33 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Does anyone know about 'e-paper e-readers'? Recommendations would be appreciated
Replies: 9
Views: 137

Re: Does anyone know about 'e-paper e-readers'? Recommendations would be appreciated

Aloka wrote:
Thu Dec 07, 2017 8:52 am

Have you tried an anti-glare screen and/or a coloured overlay, eg blue?

I had problems with excessive screen brightness on my new laptop, so I put an anti -glare screen over it and also a sheet of clear blue overlay and its fine now.


:anjali:
thanks, I will check this out .
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 2:29 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Does anyone know about 'e-paper e-readers'? Recommendations would be appreciated
Replies: 9
Views: 137

Re: Does anyone know about 'e-paper e-readers'? Recommendations would be appreciated

It's easier for me at this time, to just collectively thank everyone for their replies. :anjali: I like the look of the large reader James posted, I will search for one on ebay. Regarding 'paperwhite', I did read a review of it that was favorable (I think they said you can store and listen to mp3's ...
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 2:20 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Never too old
Replies: 15
Views: 319

Re: Never too old

How can any one of us claim we are not afraid of death, since the majority of us cannot recall what it was like all the previous times? How do we know it's not traumatic and difficult? I'd say that for most human beings, it's very difficult and traumatic (based on readings in Buddhism and elsewhere)...
by manas
Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:03 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 46
Views: 523

How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

Sense Restraint "And how does a monk guard the doors of his senses? On seeing a form with the eye, he does not grasp at any theme or details by which — if he were to dwell without restraint over the faculty of the eye — evil, unskillful qualities such as greed or distress might assail him. On heari...
by manas
Thu Dec 07, 2017 2:45 am
Forum: Dhammaduta (Dhamma propagation)
Topic: Dhamma propagation - most effective form?
Replies: 57
Views: 16715

Re: Dhamma propagation

But, most likely, it would turn as many people off buddhism as the Jehovah Witnesses do re christianity. Next someone will suggest door-knocking in pairs. ...arriving on bicycles, and wearing white shirts and ties. :D I agree with Cooran. I our culture, people are generally so put off by, and under...
by manas
Thu Dec 07, 2017 12:04 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Does anyone know about 'e-paper e-readers'? Recommendations would be appreciated
Replies: 9
Views: 137

Does anyone know about 'e-paper e-readers'? Recommendations would be appreciated

Hello everyone, my eyes are still having problems, and the light from the computer screen doesn't do them any good. I am looking for an e-reader that: 1.uses 'e ink / e paper' (I hear that is much easier on the eyes) 2. has a large screen, the larger the better 3. can connect to the Internet and acc...
by manas
Wed Dec 06, 2017 5:55 am
Forum: News, Current Events & Politics
Topic: Living as Buddhists in an age of 'Information Overload'
Replies: 38
Views: 838

Re: Living as Buddhists in an age of 'Information Overload'

With regard to what is on TV, there is no 'news', just the same tired old story, with different names and faces doing the same old things.
by manas
Mon Dec 04, 2017 7:38 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Buddhism and alcohol
Replies: 84
Views: 1335

Re: Buddhism and alcohol

Find people you can talk to who will support you in staying sober. The Buddha has said that good companions are the whole of the holy life. I have a lot of friends, everyone says I must stop. A lot of people are worrying for me. I don't want to die. But life seems to be unbearable without alcohol, ...