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by grasshopper
Fri Jun 23, 2017 12:07 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Talks by Brahm about Divorce
Replies: 5
Views: 140

Re: Talks by Brahm about Divorce

Many thanks for your responses! I'd be really wary of meddling in this space. Honestly, if someone has come to this decision, that's a pretty significant step in and of itself, and I'm sure they have their reasons why they're following this path... I am not trying to meddle in it. The girl came to m...
by grasshopper
Thu Jun 22, 2017 1:00 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Talks by Brahm about Divorce
Replies: 5
Views: 140

Talks by Brahm about Divorce

Hi All, Two of my colleagues, married to each other, are considering separation and divorce. Both of them are good friends of mine. Needless to say, I am really torn! It is the guy who has initiated this. I have had long one-on-one chats with both of them; and of course, I have suggested them to see...
by grasshopper
Fri Dec 11, 2015 2:08 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Using left hand to eat
Replies: 14
Views: 718

Re: Using left hand to eat

So eating with your left is looked down upon, for obvious sanitary reasons. But how do people in these parts of the world prepare their food? Serious question, by the way. Regardless of being left or right, eating with hands is looked down upon in the West anyways! So how do people in the West prep...
by grasshopper
Thu Dec 10, 2015 9:04 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Using left hand to eat
Replies: 14
Views: 718

Re: Using left hand to eat

This stems from pre-TP times and the fact that in some of these cultures many people still do not have access to TP (toilet paper). There is a bucket of water to the left of the hole in the room where one relieves themselves of solid waste and the left hand is used to clean up afterward. Haha getti...
by grasshopper
Thu Dec 10, 2015 1:15 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Adults Living with their Parents
Replies: 0
Views: 1214

Adults Living with their Parents

Do you live with your in-laws? How have you managed this? I am in a situation where it would be better to live with the in-laws so we can take care of them, who knows how much time they have left on this planet. It is not a situation where we depend on parents but we as working adults look after one...
by grasshopper
Wed May 06, 2015 11:43 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Dharma Bum: a new movie about U Dhammaloka
Replies: 3
Views: 729

Re: Dharma Bum: a new movie about U Dhammaloka

Free copy...this is a rivetting read!

The Life of Nyanatiloka Thera
http://books.google.de/books?id=LLkyNT5 ... &q&f=false
by grasshopper
Thu Apr 23, 2015 3:12 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Economic security & other issues re: disrobing
Replies: 25
Views: 2897

Re: Economic security & other issues re: disrobing

I too have thought about this issue many times before! In this so called modern unpredictable life, especially if you are going to ordain in a foreign unfamiliar land, I'd advise one to put one's money into a trust account with legal clauses that specify money can not be withdrawn for say 2 or 3 yea...
by grasshopper
Tue Apr 21, 2015 11:28 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Theravada Meditation in Auckland, NZ
Replies: 2
Views: 680

Re: Theravada Meditation in Auckland, NZ

Thanks Ben! I know you are a pro at Goenka retreats and I have done a few myself, would have been to cool to catch up :)

I agree, might be harder to sustain regular group sits even if I do get a group together...anyway let's see how things turnout.
by grasshopper
Tue Apr 21, 2015 2:25 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Theravada Meditation in Auckland, NZ
Replies: 2
Views: 680

Theravada Meditation in Auckland, NZ

Greetings All, My first post after 3.5 years!!!! Where has the time gone! Are there any folk interested in starting a meditation group/club (ideally with a Theravadan-bent) here in Auckland? It would be great to connect with other spiritually-minded people to meet regularly and share experiences, me...
by grasshopper
Thu Sep 08, 2011 9:38 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: We don't want to renounce. We want to have fun.
Replies: 83
Views: 9042

Re: We don't want to renounce. We want to have fun.

It is said that Buddha's father - King Suddhodhana, achieved Arahatship whilst still a lay man, albeit on his deathbed, when he was preached by none other than the Buddha himself. Buddhism definitely seems to sap the fun out of life. My experience has been the same. Though I find much comfort in Bud...
by grasshopper
Thu Sep 01, 2011 9:37 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Buddha's View on Negroes
Replies: 42
Views: 4690

Re: Buddha's Viewon Negroes

At that time the bhikkhus conferred the pabbajjà ordination on a person whose hands were cut off, on a person whose feet were cut off, whose hands and feet were cut off, whose ears were cut off, whose nose was cut off, whose ears and nose were cut off, whose fingers were cut off, whose [\q 225/] th...
by grasshopper
Thu Sep 01, 2011 4:10 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Buddha's View on Negroes
Replies: 42
Views: 4690

Re: Buddha's Viewon Negroes

Actually according to the Vinaya it is considered wrong for a monk to give anyone with a social stigma Pabbaja. Buddhaghosa in the Samantapásádiká provides a long list of stigmas, one of which is having too dark of skin -- but then another is having too light of skin. Pulga, I don't mean any disres...
by grasshopper
Thu Sep 01, 2011 2:43 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Buddha's View on Negroes
Replies: 42
Views: 4690

Re: Buddha's Viewon Negroes

Hi Guys, Even though the use of terms such as negro, n****r etc are considered very offensive and derogatory in the Western world, it is NOT so in all cultures. The exact translation of negro etc is used to refer to people of african descent and/or people with very dark skin colour and just that; no...
by grasshopper
Tue Mar 22, 2011 5:49 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: irritating people
Replies: 33
Views: 2845

Re: irritating people

I think like this when I am compelled to engage with d!ck-heads..and so far it has worked really well for me. :lol: :thumbsup: so my idea of his actions is what causes me irritation? No, that's not necessarily what I meant. His actions may well be very arrogant and cold but your reaction would be m...
by grasshopper
Tue Mar 22, 2011 3:50 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: irritating people
Replies: 33
Views: 2845

Re: irritating people

I've been struggling with this feeling of dislike for one of my office mates.. every time i see him it ruins my day.. mainly because of his arrogance.. can anyone tell me how to deal with this irritating feeling? what is the most direct Buddhist approach in relating with these kind of things.. He m...
by grasshopper
Mon Mar 21, 2011 9:58 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Shame
Replies: 3
Views: 697

Re: Shame

Here is how I see things. Our personalities, the perception other people have about us, our own perception of our own self, our actual attainments, the degree to which we depend on these things are all very dynamic. You may be a loser now but you may have been great in a previous life and might be i...
by grasshopper
Sun Jan 30, 2011 11:21 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Why not ordain?
Replies: 130
Views: 17896

Re: Why not ordain?

In order for one to see just how addicted one is to sensual pleasures, you first have to remove them. Forest monasteries in Sri Lanka do a bloody good job of this. ROFLMAO :rofl: And thanks for writing a brief description about your Sri lankan experience. I have always wondered whatever happened an...
by grasshopper
Sun Jan 30, 2011 11:13 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Why not ordain?
Replies: 130
Views: 17896

Re: Why not ordain?

I was interested in hearing why you do not ordain. I know that many of you are well versed and practiced but if you know that life is full of suffering, why do you not strive to end that suffering with the most effective way possible? All opinons are valid. With metta, :anjali: What a thread! I hav...
by grasshopper
Sun Jan 30, 2011 10:32 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Preperation for Ordination
Replies: 13
Views: 2095

Re: Preperation for Ordination

BlackBird wrote:Living the life of a monk is very easy to romanticize from the comfort of the living room.
GOLD! :thumbsup:
by grasshopper
Mon Jan 24, 2011 12:55 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Joseph Goldstein: Achieved is the End of Craving
Replies: 54
Views: 7257

Re: Joseph Goldstein: Achieved is the End of Craving

Here is another gem of Mr.Goldstein:
http://www.dharmaseed.org/teacher/96/talk/3617/" onclick="window.open(this.href);return false;

He is just so freaking brilliant! He tops in my list of Dhamma Speakers with Ajahn Brahm a close second.