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by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 9:33 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

Yes, there is also the point that the path might not appear all that appealing to one gripped by addiction. There are some problems that we need to sort out first. My teacher says that we need to alleviate some of the obvious suffering in order to stop flailing around and become stable enough to pr...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 9:19 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

I'm not sure why you believe I need to provide you with an answer to your question. You don't have to provide me with such an answer, but it would be nice if you would. You speak with great confidence, hence I assume you have an answer to my question (but for some reason refuse to reveal it). I am ...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:52 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

No addict wants to stop using. They just want to be able to use there drug of choice without the consequences that go with it. That is the denial of the addict. That this time will be different. The belief that they will one day be able to use responsibly. This is the great delusion of every addict...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:47 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

Again, I agree with the general direction of the argument here, but maybe this is about turning the "bad" self into a "good" one rather than the goal of the dhamma, which seems to be about transcending both good and bad types of self and achieving liberation from the necessity of sustaining either....
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:36 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

If one doesn't think life is worth living, then that is probably depression or nihilism, or both. It is fine if one wants to/holds those perspectives then that is their choice. Raining negativity and disparagement on those trying to help others to live, and live free of addiction and suffering, is ...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:35 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

bodom wrote:
Sat Dec 09, 2017 6:54 pm
I was under the impression that this thread is for those people who want to live a life free from the suffering of addiction and what they can do about it.
How does one want to want to live a life free from the suffering of addiction?

I think this is what many addicts are struggling with.
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:31 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: General question about confession of wrong doing.
Replies: 4
Views: 59

Re: General question about confession of wrong doing.

And would anyone like to share any information or even opinions on why confession should be so valuable? If it is the truthfulness regarding the amended action that is important, is it not enough to be truthful to oneself? On a general note: It makes sense to confess one's transgressions that affec...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 6:44 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

Unfortunately for an addict and alcoholic it is a life or death situation. There is no cutting back or reducing use. You either stop taking the chemicals that are causing problems in your life or you continue to make excuses why you can't stop and gradually lose everything. Recovery cannot begin un...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 6:38 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

On the other hand, I'm uneasy with the idea that there is more to the problem than dealing with problematic behaviours. If we cease those behaviours in body, speech, and mind, might that not simply liberate us and finish the task? In Buddhism, they sometimes say that one actually has to have two pa...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 6:18 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: What everyone participating in forums should understand
Replies: 30
Views: 533

Re: What everyone participating in forums should understand

All I'm saying is that I think that some forum debates tend to get heated and some posters' aim is to criticize others without caring about other peoples' feelings. We should have more loving-kindness in our words as that is more important than proving the other person wrong. The Buddha said: "If a...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 5:37 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths
Replies: 178
Views: 3118

Re: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths

I think you are the one drifting away from the original point, as you go along. We were talking about there being no compulsion in religion, and now you take issue with the fact that a country has been invaded. If you do this, always shifting the focus of your accusations to something new, the deba...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 5:23 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 34
Views: 306

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

let's be honest: body odour can be pretty disgusting. Should we attempt to not get aversive, or just change carriages? What would you do? Do you step in dog poo? Why not? A smell that one perceives as foul normally indicates that there's something wrong, and that it may be dangerous for one's healt...
by binocular
Sat Dec 09, 2017 5:10 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 176

A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

Greetings. There's a lot of threads about addiction, and people are usually advised to quit, cold turkey, go to rehab etc. And accused of making excuses if they don't do so. But I think what this kind of advice, albeit well-meaning, is missing is that in order to be able to give up an addiction (or ...
by binocular
Fri Dec 08, 2017 1:09 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: What everyone participating in forums should understand
Replies: 30
Views: 533

Re: What everyone participating in forums should understand

I guess what Ajahn Brahm is trying to say is that harmony between people, peace and love are much more important than trying to prove that your opinion alone is true by means of arguing. Was he talking about online forums? What you're quoting from him applies well to ordinary day-to-day situations....
by binocular
Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:57 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths
Replies: 178
Views: 3118

Re: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths

1/The tax they paid came in replacement of the zakat, which is what the Muslims had to pay. 2/They were exempted from military service and their freedom to practice their religion protected, as long as they paid this tax. Don't you pay tax in exchange for law and order, in your country? This is mis...
by binocular
Fri Dec 08, 2017 12:01 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 392

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

It isn't just suffering, or else we wouldn't be here, because we'd have all committed suicide. It's not clear how this holds. Don't underestimate the power of cynicism. The fact we're having this conversation now suggests we've decided life is worth living, and by virtue of that, it renders your pr...
by binocular
Thu Dec 07, 2017 7:01 pm
Forum: News, Current Events & Politics
Topic: Living as Buddhists in an age of 'Information Overload'
Replies: 38
Views: 769

Re: Living as Buddhists in an age of 'Information Overload'

We live in an age where information is highly abundant. But we need to ask ourselves whether that is always a good thing? It can depend on what type of information we are talking about. This is also a commercial niche for self-help books: The Organized Mind: Thinking Straight in the Age of Informat...
by binocular
Thu Dec 07, 2017 5:33 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths
Replies: 178
Views: 3118

Re: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths

Case in point of disparate views; a good friend of mine is Catholic, one of her aunts, Catholic as well, was big into an obscure tradition that daily prayed for armageddon so as to speed the arrival of the rapture. I'm inclined to think any similarly big enough, old enough religion will have all so...
by binocular
Thu Dec 07, 2017 5:28 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths
Replies: 178
Views: 3118

Re: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths

Historical reality proves the above is absolutely wrong because under the Islamic Empire people were free to practise their religions. ... and pay a tax for doing so. That's not exactly "freedom to practice one's religion." Jizya or jizyah (Arabic: جزية‎ ǧizya IPA: [dʒizja]; Ottoman Turkish: جزيه‎ ...
by binocular
Thu Dec 07, 2017 5:10 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths
Replies: 178
Views: 3118

Re: Will certain Buddhists on DW please stop disparaging other faiths

Being glad, again, doesn't mean you can't wait for other people to rot in hell and drool in anticipation about them burning forever. I'm just following some basic claims to their logical conclusions. Consistency can be uncomfortable sometimes ... 1 Judge Eternal, throned in splendor, Lord of lords ...