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by binocular
Thu Jul 02, 2020 12:42 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Is it a schism making action?
Replies: 30
Views: 399

Re: Is it a schism making action?

It seems like you have got your answer ("no") from several people said in several ways, but you don't like it. Is there a reason you persist in asking? Kinda my OCD induced skeptism. Or it might have nothing to do with your OCD. It could also be simply the momentum you gained in the past as a Mahay...
by binocular
Mon Jun 29, 2020 9:47 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: The Dhamma and Public Speaking
Replies: 16
Views: 241

Re: The Dhamma and Public Speaking

Does anyone have any experience and advice on how to combat nerves and anxiety when speaking in public by using the Dhamma? Also any non-Dhammic tips would be appreciated. I think fear of public speaking usually has one of these sources or both: 1. lack of preparation, 2. not believing in what one ...
by binocular
Sat Jun 27, 2020 12:16 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why no metta for opposite gender?
Replies: 44
Views: 828

Re: Why no metta for opposite gender?

Beholding the personal qualities that make a person endearing to others is a different thing from beholding the successes or good fortune ( sampatti ) that have come to that person. Intuitively, I wouldn't distinguish between the two, so this is new to me. E.g. being wealthy is what makes one endea...
by binocular
Sat Jun 27, 2020 11:52 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Gender and the Vinaya: Modernising the Monastic Code
Replies: 62
Views: 1291

Re: Gender and the Vinaya: Modernising the Monastic Code

SDC wrote:
Fri Jun 26, 2020 7:00 pm
Poorly, thank goodness.
Dude, your swings are giving me whiplash.
by binocular
Fri Jun 26, 2020 5:51 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Gender and the Vinaya: Modernising the Monastic Code
Replies: 62
Views: 1291

Re: Gender and the Vinaya: Modernising the Monastic Code

SDC wrote:
Fri Jun 26, 2020 4:24 pm
Distracting myself from the pain.
And how's that been working out for you?
by binocular
Fri Jun 26, 2020 4:16 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Gender and the Vinaya: Modernising the Monastic Code
Replies: 62
Views: 1291

Re: Gender and the Vinaya: Modernising the Monastic Code

SDC wrote:
Fri Jun 26, 2020 4:07 pm
Wise choice. ;)
Watcha doin' here, posting, when death beckons!!
by binocular
Fri Jun 26, 2020 4:15 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Gender and the Vinaya: Modernising the Monastic Code
Replies: 62
Views: 1291

Re: Gender and the Vinaya: Modernising the Monastic Code

I agree. There seems to be a severe lack of faith, or insight. And tolerance of such lacks. Esp. in the West, Buddhism has become something like a religion for the non-religious. This is a grave mistake. I think a far more conservative, old-fashioned, dogmatic approach, the way they have it in trad...
by binocular
Fri Jun 26, 2020 3:59 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why no metta for opposite gender?
Replies: 44
Views: 828

Re: Why no metta for opposite gender?

The revered person needn't be a Buddhist teacher or even a Buddhist. The proximate cause of mettā is sattānaṃ manāpabhāvadassanaṃ the "beholding of what is endearing in beings", meaning whatever kusala qualities are noticeable in them. The point of beginning with a person one reveres is simply that...
by binocular
Fri Jun 26, 2020 3:54 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why no metta for opposite gender?
Replies: 44
Views: 828

Re: Why no metta for opposite gender?

No_Mind wrote:
Fri Jun 26, 2020 2:08 pm
Could those men have worn a dress shirt in 38 C heat and 82% humidity?
What did the British colonialists wear when they first came to India?
by binocular
Thu Jun 25, 2020 6:59 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why no metta for opposite gender?
Replies: 44
Views: 828

Re: Why no metta for opposite gender?

With Theravadan monks, it's difficult to see more than one bare shoulder, and the legs from the calves down. I grew up in the old-fashioned countryside where all adult men wore long pants and proper dress shirts throughout the whole year. That's my standard. Granted, now even the local Catholic pri...
by binocular
Thu Jun 25, 2020 6:30 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why no metta for opposite gender?
Replies: 44
Views: 828

Re: Why no metta for opposite gender?

No, one is expected to use common sense. If you practice metta bhavanā and find that you have inappropriate feelings for your teacher, desist. Find another object, and try to avoid blaming others, the system, etc. Some teachers advise starting with puppies or kittens (I remember Ajahn Brahm doing t...
by binocular
Thu Jun 25, 2020 5:40 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why no metta for opposite gender?
Replies: 44
Views: 828

Re: Why no metta for opposite gender?

sentinel wrote:
Thu Jun 25, 2020 3:52 pm
If in buddhism consider Khema a female arahant whom attained final ariya stage while still a layperson . Outside buddhism Mother Teresa is a good candidate .
Because one is female, one is supposed to lower one's standards and act on hearsay?
by binocular
Thu Jun 25, 2020 5:38 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why no metta for opposite gender?
Replies: 44
Views: 828

Re: Why no metta for opposite gender?

cappuccino wrote:
Thu Jun 25, 2020 3:37 pm
some women like charismatic teachers

but this isn't difficult, just adapt
What do you mean by either point?

For some (many? most?) women, it tends to be distracting to watch or think of semiclad men or listen to male voices for a long time/intently.

And adapt how?
by binocular
Thu Jun 25, 2020 3:34 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why no metta for opposite gender?
Replies: 44
Views: 828

Re: Why no metta for opposite gender?

1. The initial attainment of mettā jhāna comes about precisely by way of development towards just one person, namely, one's teacher or some equally revered person: The liṅgavisabhāge teaching doesn't deny that one can have mettā for someone of the opposite sex. It merely advises the yogi against ch...
by binocular
Thu Jun 25, 2020 8:01 am
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Realms, metaphor vs reality, etc.
Replies: 100
Views: 1822

Re: Realms, metaphor vs reality, etc.

Coëmgenu wrote:
Thu Jun 25, 2020 6:49 am
Verbiage all around.