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by confusedlayman
Thu Nov 14, 2019 5:26 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: how many monk rule layman can follow and what can't be followed?
Replies: 4
Views: 74

how many monk rule layman can follow and what can't be followed?

if a layman want to follow monk rules in his life how many he can follow and what rules he can't follow if he want to and what rule he shouldn't follow just because he is layman?
by confusedlayman
Wed Nov 13, 2019 7:46 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Casual tinder sex?
Replies: 20
Views: 396

Re: Casual tinder sex?

Having casual sex on tinder dating with consent is against any precepts that will hinder my progress to low stage of enlightment. (Stream entry) Just read your signature: non-agitation is highest peace living unaffected by other cause and condition to suffering is true bliss not associating with st...
by confusedlayman
Tue Nov 12, 2019 4:08 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How four Brahama Viihara connected with the Jhana?
Replies: 41
Views: 584

Re: How four Brahama Viihara connected with the Jhana?

why not 4th? once u enter 1st its all same jhana? 1st jhana of using metta or breath or another is just for basis but w2hen u enter 1st can't u go beyond 3? why? Can metta be practised without thinking? :shrug: metta is a basis but not jhana in itself. meta can be used to calm body, mind, remove an...
by confusedlayman
Tue Nov 12, 2019 3:05 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How four Brahama Viihara connected with the Jhana?
Replies: 41
Views: 584

Re: How four Brahama Viihara connected with the Jhana?

.... metta, karuna and mudita may serve as a basis for jhanas 1-3. Jhanas 2 - 3 have nothing that can be 'thinking' ('vitakka & vicara'), either gross or subtle. Therefore, how can metta, karuna and mudita serve as a basis for jhanas 2-3? Thank you why not 4th? once u enter 1st its all same jhana? ...
by confusedlayman
Tue Nov 12, 2019 3:00 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why does a streamenterer only have 6 lives left to enlightenment?
Replies: 19
Views: 315

Re: Why does a streamenterer only have 6 lives left to enlightenment?

user99 wrote:
Tue Nov 12, 2019 1:12 am
Why?
if u have a battery for 30 hours charge and u spent 24 hours charge and switch off. then u switch on u has max 6 hrs usage not more why?
by confusedlayman
Tue Nov 12, 2019 2:57 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Casual tinder sex?
Replies: 20
Views: 396

Re: Casual tinder sex?

hi, but greed and lust based on seeing body as amazing . isn't it ignorance view? Of course it is rooted in ignorance, but the five precepts are about developing resistance to a certain degree of physical action. Having consensual sex is not by default a violation of the precepts. thanks for cleari...
by confusedlayman
Tue Nov 12, 2019 2:57 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Casual tinder sex?
Replies: 20
Views: 396

Re: Casual tinder sex?

If two people are consenting to have sex through a dating app, it is not by default sexual misconduct. It is no different than consenting to have sex after meeting at a club or the library. Retro makes a very good point, don't be so concerned on whether or not you are violating a precept. Be more c...
by confusedlayman
Tue Nov 12, 2019 2:56 am
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: In which sutta does the Buddha explain what no self means?
Replies: 10
Views: 346

Re: In which sutta does the Buddha explain what no self means?

“no-self” was NEVER declared by the buddha , it is an interpretation of the doctrine. anatta means not-self (or without self) according to nikaya buddhism. in many suttas the buddha teaches that the five khandhas (rupa—forms, vedana—sensations/feelings, sanna—perceptions, sankhara—combinations/tend...
by confusedlayman
Tue Nov 12, 2019 2:47 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Casual tinder sex?
Replies: 20
Views: 396

Re: Casual tinder sex?

Hey guys, Having casual sex on tinder dating with consent is against any precepts that will hinder my progress to low stage of enlightment. (Stream entry) If two people are consenting to have sex through a dating app, it is not by default sexual misconduct. It is no different than consenting to hav...
by confusedlayman
Tue Nov 12, 2019 2:44 am
Forum: Pāli
Topic: My new view of SN 12.15. Is it right or is it wrong?
Replies: 44
Views: 1095

Re: My new view of SN 12.15. Is it right or is it wrong?

In my opinion what Sutta saying is seen one extream only is the wrong view. You have to see them in the context of Dependent Origination. Ie birth, continuation and death. You should not take any of those three as I,me and myself. if something has to arise it has to have intrinsic being/object but ...
by confusedlayman
Mon Nov 11, 2019 10:16 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Casual tinder sex?
Replies: 20
Views: 396

Casual tinder sex?

Hey guys,

Having casual sex on tinder dating with consent is against any precepts that will hinder my progress to low stage of enlightment. (Stream entry)
by confusedlayman
Mon Nov 11, 2019 10:12 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to recover after heartbreak
Replies: 26
Views: 770

Re: How to recover after heartbreak

Hi, I need you guys .. really .. like never before. I would be turning 50 in about 8 months. I had developed remarkably strong practice from September last year (that was why I became infrequent here). I was so happy, so calm. Everyone was amazed by the change they saw in me. Anyway, then the 49th ...
by confusedlayman
Thu Nov 07, 2019 11:03 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: It is such a piti, or is it?
Replies: 9
Views: 568

Re: It is such a piti, or is it?

In 2009 during a meditation sitting I did in a library whilst sat in a chair, I experienced a strong sensation of pleasure after about 45 minutes. I will try to describe the sensation: It felt physically pleasurable. If I were to try to visualise it, I would imagine it as starting like a small glow...
by confusedlayman
Wed Nov 06, 2019 1:18 am
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: No soul, consciousness confused?
Replies: 30
Views: 733

Re: No soul, consciousness confused?

Hello everyone, I'm really sorry these are basic questions but i did a search on this forum about these all but still confused. So if there is no soul in buddhism what goes to the next life? If it is consciousness that goes to the next life, how can you say body doesn't make consciousness, so when ...
by confusedlayman
Sat Nov 02, 2019 1:35 am
Forum: Samatha Bhāvana
Topic: The Neuroscience of Jhāna
Replies: 4
Views: 255

Re: The Neuroscience of Jhāna

Paul Dennison (napaul@tiscali.co.uk) of the UK-based Samatha Trust ( https://www.samatha.org ) has been conducting research on Samatha meditators based on EEG readings, and has recently published a paper on this: ‘The Human Default Consciousness and Its Disruption: Insights From an EEG Study of Bud...