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by DarrenM
Sun Oct 18, 2020 4:26 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Dad bods are best for family men
Replies: 11
Views: 4008

Re: Dad bods are best for family men

What about dads that go to mediation classes or to weeks long retreats, I wonder if they would be classed as worse fathers than those who stay at home. By the way I do none of these, I’m in great shape due to lucky genetics, have zero friends other than my wife and kids and no social life at all. Al...
by DarrenM
Sun Oct 18, 2020 8:21 am
Forum: Shrine Room
Topic: death of forum member dylanj
Replies: 44
Views: 1297

Re: death of forum member dylanj

That’s so sad. He seemed to have knowledge of the Dhamma and a bright mind. :candle:
by DarrenM
Sat Sep 12, 2020 9:18 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Should we avoid driving?
Replies: 20
Views: 1474

Re: Should we avoid driving?

Yes, but I can be careful when I walk, maybe even I can be careful when I cycle. But if a squirrel runs out in front of you when you're driving, there's nothing you can do. Now in that moment you can tell yourself that you had no intention of killing the squirrel, which is true, but the fact is tha...
by DarrenM
Sun Aug 30, 2020 9:31 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Theravada for lay people
Replies: 46
Views: 11671

Re: Theravada for lay people

Personally I believe only way to enter the path is either ordain or live secluded. Even then there may be distractions. Nah, entering the path is more than possible in a lay life. Anagaminship, though, is the path almost fully treaded. That’s why I said ‘personally’. This would be the only way for ...
by DarrenM
Sat Aug 29, 2020 10:11 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Theravada for lay people
Replies: 46
Views: 11671

Re: Theravada for lay people

Householders can also obtain any of the level of awakening bar Arahantship Highest possible is anagaminship, though, hardly attainable these days. I agree, very difficult with modern day job, family, etc, huge obstacles in the way. Personally I believe only way to enter the path is either ordain or...
by DarrenM
Tue Jul 21, 2020 6:59 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Interest in Buddhism
Replies: 13
Views: 17429

Re: Interest in Buddhism

Hello. :hello:
by DarrenM
Thu Jul 16, 2020 10:25 am
Forum: Announcements
Topic: SDC stepping down as a moderator
Replies: 25
Views: 27234

Re: SDC stepping down as a moderator

Thanks SDC.
by DarrenM
Sun Jul 05, 2020 11:23 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Army Reserve Against the Precepts?
Replies: 40
Views: 2976

Re: Army Reserve Against the Precepts?

I served in the British Paras for 6 years. The truth is that in general the Forces is an unwholesome environment. I’m speaking from experience, I would struggle enormously to serve and practice if in that environment again. Even ‘nice’ service personnel hold serious wrong views. I’m talking across t...
by DarrenM
Thu Jul 02, 2020 7:46 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: The Dhamma and Public Speaking
Replies: 24
Views: 13707

Re: The Dhamma and Public Speaking

Please let us know how it goes Ceisiwr and best of luck, I bet you’ll fly it. :clap:
by DarrenM
Tue Jun 30, 2020 11:13 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: The Dhamma and Public Speaking
Replies: 24
Views: 13707

Re: The Dhamma and Public Speaking

Greetings fellow deluded samsaric beings, Does anyone have any experience and advice on how to combat nerves and anxiety when speaking in public by using the Dhamma? Also any non-Dhammic tips would be appreciated. I may possibly have to give a presentation soon regarding the results of a project i'...
by DarrenM
Sat Jun 20, 2020 4:30 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: Ciggarettes
Replies: 52
Views: 30593

Re: Ciggarettes

Smoking. I smoke alot, lately I have been going through a carton in about 3 days. I decided to start smoking one day, at work as a dishwasher and at the smoking section in high school where I also smoked weed. How can I quit? I have read Alan Carr's book, it didn't work. I I feel utterly lost in me...
by DarrenM
Sat Jun 20, 2020 4:17 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: 5 Precepts
Replies: 16
Views: 719

Re: 5 Precepts

I would definitely try and subdue without killing; I trained in Brazilian Jui Jitsu and served in the Army for 5 years so know some techniques, but if I had no choice, then I would do anything to protect my children in say a split second life or death situation. Also from a grappling background (di...
by DarrenM
Sat Jun 20, 2020 8:02 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: SN25.1-10 Good news!! Many of us in this forum are assured stream entry!
Replies: 70
Views: 7288

Re: SN25.1-10 Good news!! Many of us in this forum are assured stream entry!

The shortest path to Enter the Stream is to observe our thoughts as not me not mine not myself. Then, if there is conditions of 8NP, the Fruit will be realised. The beginning of 8NP to me is five precepts as the first 5 steps of both are either the same or parallel. Next what are the criteria of be...
by DarrenM
Sat Jun 20, 2020 7:34 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: 5 Precepts
Replies: 16
Views: 719

Re: 5 Precepts

So i was just taking a stroll, walking the dog and I got thinking about the 5 precepts. I officially ‘took’ the precepts around 5 years ago from a monk and it made a huge transformative difference to my life. My faith in the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha helped me maintain the the changes I made. In my...
by DarrenM
Sat Jun 20, 2020 7:31 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: 5 Precepts
Replies: 16
Views: 719

Re: 5 Precepts

An example is when I interviewed for a job recently and managed to tell the truth all the way through until the last question. I gave a truthful example but right at the end started mumbling and added a bit on that wasn’t a part of the story. Work still to be done. The modern workplace, that is rid...