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by ehensens
Fri Sep 06, 2019 5:13 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Trying to introduce an abusive alcoholic father to weed?
Replies: 11
Views: 380

Re: Trying to introduce an abusive alcoholic father to weed?

Hello holylotus! I think it depends on your father. Do you think it would be possible to get him to replace his alcohol habit with a marijuana habit? I've read anecdotes about people using marijuana to defeat their alcoholism (and in my opinion, marijuana is definitely much less destructive than alc...
by ehensens
Thu Sep 05, 2019 5:10 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Who/what do you think the Christian god is?
Replies: 20
Views: 619

Re: Who/what do you think the Christian god is?

SarathW wrote:
Wed Aug 21, 2019 9:34 pm
Whether Buddhist, non-Buddhist or Athiest we all follow the Eight Fold Path.
Hello SarathW :hello:

Could you please explain in what way an atheist follows the eight fold path?

Thank you,
Erik
by ehensens
Wed Aug 14, 2019 5:17 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Let's discuss super normal powers.
Replies: 12
Views: 340

Re: Let's discuss super normal powers.

If someone claimed to have supernatural powers, would you believe them? If you read about them, if you saw a video, if there were eyewitnesses who swore something supernatural happened, wouldn't most people still think there was something nefarious going on and not believe it? Secondly, it seems to ...
by ehensens
Mon Jul 15, 2019 5:48 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Guidance on Anger
Replies: 17
Views: 576

Re: Guidance on Anger

1.is it possible to lock the door? 2.Can you be honest with her and say it bothers you. :namaste: Akashad, thank you for your reply. I might not have described the situation well enough, but locking the door would be locking my wife out of our master bathroom. Given that, I'm sure I don't have to e...
by ehensens
Fri Jul 12, 2019 4:56 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Guidance on Anger
Replies: 17
Views: 576

Re: Guidance on Anger

Thank you all so much for your thoughtful and helpful replies, they have really inspired me in this regard. It is especially helpful to be reminded that the reaction of shame after becoming angry is also the result of unrealistic expectations of perfection. I will make it a point to concentrate to t...
by ehensens
Thu Jul 11, 2019 4:52 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Guidance on Anger
Replies: 17
Views: 576

Guidance on Anger

Hello friends, I need some guidance on some recurring anger. At home, our morning routines work out such that when I'm taking my morning shower, my wife is brushing her teeth, washing her face, etc. at the sink. This naturally requires my wife to turn the faucet on and off, on and off. Every time sh...
by ehensens
Wed Jun 26, 2019 5:12 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Some questions and points on Buddhism
Replies: 18
Views: 691

Re: Some questions and points on Buddhism

Without faith in kamma and the births caused by it, the practice will not have a motivational support. Why would a person follow any rules and limit himself if he believes that after death there will be nothing? Hi Antaradhana :hello: , A person might "follow rules and limit himself" even if he bel...
by ehensens
Fri Jun 14, 2019 5:51 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: What is the cleaning s n Goenka spooks about?
Replies: 8
Views: 464

Re: What is the cleaning s n Goenka spooks about?

Purifying the cause of tension in the body via body scanning. My own theory is that when the body is hard and conditoned, the mind is weak and over stimulated. When the body is soft, the mind is more sensitive, can discern more, and is thus strong. budo, could you please explain what you mean by "h...
by ehensens
Thu May 23, 2019 6:21 pm
Forum: Hot Topics
Topic: Dhamma that triggers SJWs
Replies: 124
Views: 5864

Re: Dhamma that triggers SJWs

Outside of the biological constraints of pregnancy and lactation (and possibly the gender pay differential based on them) there are no reasons for one partner rather than the other to adopt a particular role. This is a potential source of conflict or family break-up for nearly all modern families, ...
by ehensens
Wed Mar 13, 2019 5:18 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Your successes in overcoming obstacles and hindrances to meditation
Replies: 8
Views: 503

Re: Your successes in overcoming obstacles and hindrances to meditation

Thank you Laurens for the thoughtful reply! :bow:

I'm sure these videos will prove very useful.
by ehensens
Tue Mar 12, 2019 5:31 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Your successes in overcoming obstacles and hindrances to meditation
Replies: 8
Views: 503

Re: Your successes in overcoming obstacles and hindrances to meditation

I also changed my approach to the meditation object. Rather than viewing concentration in the same way one might view studying something under a microscope, straining hard and not really enjoying it. I decided to make the breath as pleasant as possible. Once you use the breath as a means to calm th...
by ehensens
Tue Feb 26, 2019 6:34 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Buddhism and personalities
Replies: 6
Views: 347

Re: Buddhism and personalities

Hello Manopubbangama :hello: I'm not sure I'm familiar with the phenomenon you're referring to, could you PM me as you suggested? Is it your experience that this is more likely to occur with Buddhists of Western backgrounds (assuming that's what you mean by "converts")? Also, what is the 'broken-bud...
by ehensens
Thu Jan 17, 2019 6:48 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Anapanasati Sutra
Replies: 14
Views: 1186

Re: Anapanasati Sutra

I second the recommendation for Larry Rosenberg's Breath by Breath. I found the author's style congenial, encouraging, and friendly - intimate, rather than distant and overly scholastic. This attitude was very helpful to a beginner such as myself; it felt like I was being guided by an old friend. Th...
by ehensens
Wed Jul 18, 2018 5:56 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Metta Prayer and Anatta
Replies: 8
Views: 849

Re: Metta Prayer and Anatta

Wonderful and useful advice from each of you, for which I am truly grateful.

:bow:
by ehensens
Tue Jul 17, 2018 1:37 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Metta Prayer and Anatta
Replies: 8
Views: 849

Re: Metta Prayer and Anatta

Thank you all for your responses! This is basically what I had figured, that it is a practice that starts with metta aimed at the conventional "self", and which ultimately expands to all beings. Your input has been helpful. Buddha never said there is no soul. SarathW, could you please expound on thi...