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by ehensens
Mon Jul 15, 2019 5:48 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Guidance on Anger
Replies: 17
Views: 381

Re: Guidance on Anger

1.is it possible to lock the door? 2.Can you be honest with her and say it bothers you. :namaste: Akashad, thank you for your reply. I might not have described the situation well enough, but locking the door would be locking my wife out of our master bathroom. Given that, I'm sure I don't have to e...
by ehensens
Fri Jul 12, 2019 4:56 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Guidance on Anger
Replies: 17
Views: 381

Re: Guidance on Anger

Thank you all so much for your thoughtful and helpful replies, they have really inspired me in this regard. It is especially helpful to be reminded that the reaction of shame after becoming angry is also the result of unrealistic expectations of perfection. I will make it a point to concentrate to t...
by ehensens
Thu Jul 11, 2019 4:52 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Guidance on Anger
Replies: 17
Views: 381

Guidance on Anger

Hello friends, I need some guidance on some recurring anger. At home, our morning routines work out such that when I'm taking my morning shower, my wife is brushing her teeth, washing her face, etc. at the sink. This naturally requires my wife to turn the faucet on and off, on and off. Every time sh...
by ehensens
Wed Jun 26, 2019 5:12 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Some questions and points on Buddhism
Replies: 18
Views: 537

Re: Some questions and points on Buddhism

Without faith in kamma and the births caused by it, the practice will not have a motivational support. Why would a person follow any rules and limit himself if he believes that after death there will be nothing? Hi Antaradhana :hello: , A person might "follow rules and limit himself" even if he bel...
by ehensens
Fri Jun 14, 2019 5:51 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: What is the cleaning s n Goenka spooks about?
Replies: 8
Views: 397

Re: What is the cleaning s n Goenka spooks about?

Purifying the cause of tension in the body via body scanning. My own theory is that when the body is hard and conditoned, the mind is weak and over stimulated. When the body is soft, the mind is more sensitive, can discern more, and is thus strong. budo, could you please explain what you mean by "h...
by ehensens
Thu May 23, 2019 6:21 pm
Forum: Hot Topics
Topic: Dhamma that triggers SJWs
Replies: 124
Views: 5039

Re: Dhamma that triggers SJWs

Outside of the biological constraints of pregnancy and lactation (and possibly the gender pay differential based on them) there are no reasons for one partner rather than the other to adopt a particular role. This is a potential source of conflict or family break-up for nearly all modern families, ...
by ehensens
Wed Mar 13, 2019 5:18 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Your successes in overcoming obstacles and hindrances to meditation
Replies: 8
Views: 422

Re: Your successes in overcoming obstacles and hindrances to meditation

Thank you Laurens for the thoughtful reply! :bow:

I'm sure these videos will prove very useful.
by ehensens
Tue Mar 12, 2019 5:31 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Your successes in overcoming obstacles and hindrances to meditation
Replies: 8
Views: 422

Re: Your successes in overcoming obstacles and hindrances to meditation

I also changed my approach to the meditation object. Rather than viewing concentration in the same way one might view studying something under a microscope, straining hard and not really enjoying it. I decided to make the breath as pleasant as possible. Once you use the breath as a means to calm th...
by ehensens
Tue Feb 26, 2019 6:34 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Buddhism and personalities
Replies: 6
Views: 297

Re: Buddhism and personalities

Hello Manopubbangama :hello: I'm not sure I'm familiar with the phenomenon you're referring to, could you PM me as you suggested? Is it your experience that this is more likely to occur with Buddhists of Western backgrounds (assuming that's what you mean by "converts")? Also, what is the 'broken-bud...
by ehensens
Thu Jan 17, 2019 6:48 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: Anapanasati Sutra
Replies: 14
Views: 1039

Re: Anapanasati Sutra

I second the recommendation for Larry Rosenberg's Breath by Breath. I found the author's style congenial, encouraging, and friendly - intimate, rather than distant and overly scholastic. This attitude was very helpful to a beginner such as myself; it felt like I was being guided by an old friend. Th...
by ehensens
Wed Jul 18, 2018 5:56 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Metta Prayer and Anatta
Replies: 8
Views: 768

Re: Metta Prayer and Anatta

Wonderful and useful advice from each of you, for which I am truly grateful.

:bow:
by ehensens
Tue Jul 17, 2018 1:37 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Metta Prayer and Anatta
Replies: 8
Views: 768

Re: Metta Prayer and Anatta

Thank you all for your responses! This is basically what I had figured, that it is a practice that starts with metta aimed at the conventional "self", and which ultimately expands to all beings. Your input has been helpful. Buddha never said there is no soul. SarathW, could you please expound on thi...
by ehensens
Sat Jul 14, 2018 8:35 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Metta Prayer and Anatta
Replies: 8
Views: 768

Metta Prayer and Anatta

Based upon some advice given in Bhante G's Mindfulness in Plain English, I have been reciting a prayer of metta before beginning each of my sittings, which goes like this: May I be well, happy and peaceful. May no harm come to me. May I always meet with spiritual success. May I also have patience, c...
by ehensens
Fri May 25, 2018 12:59 am
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Reaction to Mind States and Kamma
Replies: 3
Views: 228

Reaction to Mind States and Kamma

When mind states arise, does one's reaction to them condition their future arising/non-arising? For instance, if the mind state of anger arises, and the arising is seen with mindfulness, and observed with detachment, up to the point when it inevitably passes away, does that skillful reaction to the ...
by ehensens
Sun May 06, 2018 11:05 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Using Ear Muffs During Meditation?
Replies: 9
Views: 1272

Re: Using Ear Muffs During Meditation?

Thank you all very much for your thoughts. I am going to ditch the ear muffs so that I don’t get attached to the silence. Your quoting Ajahn Chah inspired me; I am just now at the end of Food For The Heart and I remember that part... I suppose I was just stubborn in the face of his teaching. :thanks...