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by Stiphan
Sat Dec 09, 2017 12:38 am
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 411

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

Being a parent is a great responsibility. You are basically heavily responsible for the life of the child you are bringing up and how they turn up to be as human beings. That means that first of all you have to have developed yourself well enough before thinking of having kids - otherwise how are yo...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:52 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: I am back
Replies: 19
Views: 258

Re: I am back

SarathW wrote:
Fri Dec 08, 2017 10:38 pm
It's not just to read or to listen to the discourse - the most important thing is to understand it
Agree.
But there is a subliminal effect when you listen to Sutta.
Your inner mind is smarter than your critical mind.

Yes in regards to Jhana, I just exaggerated a bit. ;)
What is "inner mind"?
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:48 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 411

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

Well, isn't it a type of suffering then? I agree that some people do not suffer when things change for the worse, but the suffering due to change does exist, and most people, when they lose their happiness, health, youth, loved ones, or cherished possessions - they suffer. https://www.accesstoinsigh...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:37 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: What everyone participating in forums should understand
Replies: 38
Views: 635

Re: What everyone participating in forums should understand

Greetings Stiphan, Agreed. I think it is important to have a charitable attitude towards oneself and others. Not necessarily charitable in the "relating to the assistance of those in need" sense (though of course that is a good thing too!), but moreso in the "apt to judge others leniently or favour...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:36 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: What everyone participating in forums should understand
Replies: 38
Views: 635

Re: What everyone participating in forums should understand

chownah wrote:
Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:46 am
I guess a forum could have harmony like that....but....is it the only way that a forum could have harmony?.....maybe there is another way....


chownah
This is awesome. :clap: :twothumbsup:
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:19 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 411

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

Dear Doo Doot, so does this mean that the second type of suffering ( vipariṇāma-dukkha , suffering due to change), which I believe is a canonical teaching, is invalid and it is not actually dukkha simply because some people do not suffer due to change? And that we should instead have only two types ...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:11 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: What everyone participating in forums should understand
Replies: 38
Views: 635

Re: What everyone participating in forums should understand

Thanks for the sutta reference, Retro! Well, you referred to these people as 'listeners' but they are actually 'responders', and their speech is - in your view - more to blame than the original speakers. I'd say both are caught in a cycle of dosa , aversion. The people you refer to are just 'fightin...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 10:49 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 411

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

Yes, that is better put. But you can say that life is unsatisfactory (for us putthujanas). Sabbe saṅkhārā dukkha - all conditioned things are dukkha, dukkha having three levels: (1) dukkha-dukkhata: ordinary suffering and pain; (2) viparinama-dukkhata: suffering due to change, meaning that even ple...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 10:29 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: I am back
Replies: 19
Views: 258

Re: I am back

Thanks, Sarath, that's very kind of you! Good suggestion to listen to the MN. I prefer Bhikkhu Bodhi's translations over Ṭhanissāro Bhikkhus' ones. Just personal preference. If I have the time, it would be good to listen to his talks on the MN suttas. But about listening to the suttas themselves, we...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 10:18 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 411

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

Suffering exists in every life in samsara. Being born as a human is extremely rare and of immense benefit. Only a human can attain to an Ariya. Just consider how much more precious is attaining a birth as a human to a parent who is practising the Dhamma. Denying a being that opportunity when you co...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 10:08 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: What everyone participating in forums should understand
Replies: 38
Views: 635

Re: What everyone participating in forums should understand

Greetings Stiphan, But since this is a discussion forum where each of us have our own opinions and views and we - even though we are Buddhists - still have our defilements and are only making our own different-paced progress towards love and compassion - it is only normal that things are as they ar...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 9:41 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: How much happy are you?
Replies: 33
Views: 489

Re: How much happy are you?

I just wonder what will be the happiness % of a person in fourth Jhana and a person experiencing depression. If you take Arahantship to be 100%, then Non-return would be 95%, Once-return 93%, Stream-entry 90%, Cessation of perception and feeling between 95 and 100%, [the attainments by puthujjanas ...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 9:27 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: What everyone participating in forums should understand
Replies: 38
Views: 635

Re: What everyone participating in forums should understand

Thanks for making me aware of this micro- and macro-levels which I wasn't aware of. Since most people are intensely ruled by their greed, hatred, and delusion, and their craving for power and control, as well as for praise, honour, pleasure and gain, it is understandable - although unfortunate - tha...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 8:40 pm
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: How much happy are you?
Replies: 33
Views: 489

Re: How much happy are you?

I'm just glad there's no one reporting 10 or 20%. It's a good question. A better question would be: How little suffering do you have? Or, how few problems do you have? As long as you're not suffering or having major problems, then you're doing OK, even if you're not particularly happy. Also, these f...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 8:02 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 43
Views: 412

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

As per MN 2, I think this calls for endurance or avoidance. The former seems tough for you, so just use avoidance and change carriages or distance yourself from that place. For you it's smells, for others it could be sights, sounds, tastes, or tactile sensations that are difficult to endure, or any ...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:35 pm
Forum: Pāli
Topic: Pali pronunciation
Replies: 62
Views: 22243

Re: Pali pronunciation

I am lucky I am Bulgarian in that Bulgarian pronunciation is closer to Pāḷi than English, being 'harder'. It's almost the same actually. There are additional sounds not present in Bulgarian like ṭ, ḍ, ṅ, and ṇ, but I think I can pronounce them if I knew exactly how they sound. Bulgarian is also simi...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:18 pm
Forum: Classical Theravāda
Topic: What is Metteyya's Name, Right Now
Replies: 7
Views: 185

Re: What is Metteyya's Name, Right Now

How would anyone know? It's Gotama Buddha that predicted Metteyya/Maitreya Buddha, so unless it is in the scriptures, how would anyone know what his current name is or where he is at present. If it's just "according to mythology" as Aloka says, it's not a sure thing. It might be you or me or anyone!...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:03 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 411

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

Wouldn't that be bringing a child into an existence which is suffering? Life is not suffering. Life contains suffering. It also contains much joy and happiness as well. :namaste: Yes, that is better put. But you can say that life is unsatisfactory (for us putthujanas). Sabbe saṅkhārā dukkha - all c...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 6:52 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 411

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

I've thought about this, too. Siddhattha Gotama (before he became a Buddha) had a son. But maybe that was an unenlightened decision of his. If you give someone birth, you are also thereby giving them old age, sickness, and death, and a whole lot of other forms of suffering that are part of life, inc...
by Stiphan
Fri Dec 08, 2017 4:46 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: What everyone participating in forums should understand
Replies: 38
Views: 635

Re: What everyone participating in forums should understand

All I'm saying is that I think that some forum debates tend to get heated and some posters' aim is to criticize others without caring about other peoples' feelings. We should have more loving-kindness in our words as that is more important than proving the other person wrong. The Buddha said: "If a ...