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by TLCD96
Wed May 08, 2019 6:56 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Uncle wants to move in...
Replies: 3
Views: 236

Uncle wants to move in...

Hi everyone, Recently it seems that my uncle has lost his house, so now he's planning on moving in with my dad, my sister, and myself for a couple of months. None of us feel too good about it. My sister and I suspect that it's because my dad would feel bad about saying no. My uncle has a history wit...
by TLCD96
Wed May 08, 2019 6:43 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Semen retentive sex and Buddhist practice
Replies: 69
Views: 1780

Re: Semen retentive sex and Buddhist practice

A little more than a year ago I was engaging in sexual activity - but not sex - with my ex-girlfriend, and while we both were under the impression that it was somehow more spiritually beneficial, I think it might have been better to not do it at all. It was beneficial only to the extent that we didn...
by TLCD96
Tue Feb 26, 2019 10:37 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 621

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

No matter what you do, or how you do it, you're going to create problems for your group if Steve and Elly are an Item. Leave it be unless someone asks you to address it. It isn't your place. You're not having sex with your friends girlfriend, nor are you cheating on your partner with his friend. In...
by TLCD96
Mon Feb 25, 2019 9:17 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 621

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

Everyone in the world is "subject to happiness and suffering, and the law of kamma; actions still have consequences." So where does your responsibility lie? By your reasoning, you should then approach everyone you know and point out to them the possible consequences of their actions. Why is that yo...
by TLCD96
Mon Feb 25, 2019 6:18 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 621

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

Hi TLCD. When relationships are not inherently grounded in mutual long term goals; when relationships are generally mostly about sex or romantic indulgence; then often both young & older people search around for what they hope is a more ideal partner; which includes changing partners, snaking partn...
by TLCD96
Mon Feb 25, 2019 4:21 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 621

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

I really want to practice Dhamma but there's no Dhamma there. Best wishes. either bring the dhamma with you or do not attend. what else can you do? See, I know I should be minimizing time with them and have been considering ways in which I can do so, one of which is meditation and self-reflection; ...
by TLCD96
Sun Feb 24, 2019 9:39 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 621

How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

Hi all, Some back story. For the past few years I've had a small circle of friends I see on the weekends. They are not Dhamma practitioners; we all used to get together and smoke pot (I introduced it to the group), play video games and listen to music. Eventually pot fell out of it and we just play ...
by TLCD96
Thu Feb 07, 2019 6:33 am
Forum: Dhammaduta (Dhamma propagation)
Topic: Sanghas near Chicago?
Replies: 5
Views: 331

Re: Sanghas near Chicago?

Buddhanet's World Buddhist Directory returns 19 results for Theravadin centres in Illinois. https://tinyurl.com/ybnn34hg Thanks venerable! For non-rebirth Dhamma, browse this site: https://www.liberationpark.org/retreat/persrets.htm https://www.liberationpark.org/contact/chicago.htm Wondering what ...
by TLCD96
Wed Feb 06, 2019 7:55 am
Forum: Dhammaduta (Dhamma propagation)
Topic: Sanghas near Chicago?
Replies: 5
Views: 331

Sanghas near Chicago?

Hi all, I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this, but I'm looking for a sangha in the chicago area; some place I could easily get to, that perhaps offers teachings weekly or monthly at no cost, and with preferably some good connection to monastic traditions. I notice there are a number o...
by TLCD96
Tue Dec 18, 2018 7:13 am
Forum: Wellness, Diet & Fitness
Topic: 109-Year-Old Veteran and His Secrets to Life Will Make You Smile
Replies: 5
Views: 1512

Re: 109-Year-Old Veteran and His Secrets to Life Will Make You Smile

A monk once told this wonderful story about how, when he was on a trip to Thailand, he got to meet with a very old monk (around 100 years old). He asked the old monk a question, to my memory: How did you get to be so old? Me? Well if you want to live to be old like me, all you need to do is keep bre...
by TLCD96
Tue Dec 18, 2018 6:54 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Is it possible to practice compassion in daily life?
Replies: 10
Views: 682

Re: Is it possible to practice compassion in daily life?

This article by Ajahn Sucitto has some excellent insights into, and practical help with, the 4 Brahma-Viharas. https://ajahnsucitto.org/articles/cultivating-empathy/ And this talk by Ajahn Thanissaro focuses more specifically on the sick and dying: https://www.dhammatalks.org/books/PurityOfHeart/Se...
by TLCD96
Tue May 08, 2018 12:54 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Dealing with break ups
Replies: 16
Views: 3657

Re: Dealing with break ups

Thanks all for the answers! I think the hardest part is de-convincing myself of the notion that I have a need for her, or that she's special. Seems like those two can also manifest in the reverse: she needs me and I'm special. Whether or not those two support each other, I'm not sure. Memories are v...
by TLCD96
Sat May 05, 2018 1:10 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Dealing with break ups
Replies: 16
Views: 3657

Re: Dealing with break ups

Yes, I've had similar experiences. They can be long-lasting and very intense. ... And good luck, and go gently on yourself, because it will hurt for a while. Thanks a lot! That's really helpful. went to 3 months retreat :thumbsup: the foolish action was having a gf in first place :toast: went to 3 ...
by TLCD96
Fri May 04, 2018 7:48 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Dealing with break ups
Replies: 16
Views: 3657

Dealing with break ups

Hi Dhammawheel! My first girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me 6 weeks or so ago. It was the result of my own foolish actions (which I just spent an hour writing about but got erased because somehow I got logged out). I miss her and the life we could be living, a lot. She was such a bright person ...
by TLCD96
Mon Aug 21, 2017 5:29 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: can someone with depression ordain?
Replies: 10
Views: 1695

Re: can someone with depression ordain?

Some Sanghas will take just about anybody. Some, such as the Ajahn Chah Tradition, require more time. Whether or not your depression is a "deal-breaker" is up to the Sangha, really. I'm sure there are plenty of people with depression who have ordained, or ordained people who are even going through a...