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by TLCD96
Tue Sep 17, 2019 5:54 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: any fast way of burning up karma?
Replies: 21
Views: 308

Re: any fast way of burning up karma?

Think of it this way: How will you ever understand your anger if you want it to go away? You need to understand it to truly penetrate it, and so you need to be willing to be present with it. The fastest way is repression, but this can cause some mental health issues. The point is not to get rid of i...
by TLCD96
Tue Sep 17, 2019 12:23 am
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Gentle non-mobile meditation timer (battery operated)?
Replies: 9
Views: 437

Re: Gentle non-mobile meditation timer (battery operated)?

Abhayagiri seems to make good use of the MyChron timer (used by school teachers), which vibrates when time is up.
by TLCD96
Tue Sep 10, 2019 5:32 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: MN 68: a good case study on how easy and ordinary first jhana is
Replies: 9
Views: 269

Re: MN 68: a good case study on how easy and ordinary first jhana is

So how does this make Jhana seem easy for those who struggle to even put down their phone?
by TLCD96
Sat Aug 24, 2019 3:41 am
Forum: Ordination and Monastic Life
Topic: Looking for residential practice centers in the US reccomendations
Replies: 3
Views: 266

Re: Looking for residential practice centers in the US reccomendations

Monasteries in the Thai Forest tradition, as far as I know, aren't offering formal programs but do allow you to stay as guests - Abhayagiri in California is a good example. They don't offer personal retreats, but spending time there as a guest means you're living there and participating with the com...
by TLCD96
Thu Aug 15, 2019 3:46 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: LP Pasanno's advice for a mind that keeps fizzling with thought
Replies: 0
Views: 263

LP Pasanno's advice for a mind that keeps fizzling with thought

Hi all, I just recently left Abhayagiri after a 2 week stay. This is after about a year of practice where it seemed my meditation was not going anywhere. I had an approach where I thought I would use Buddho to settle my mind on my breath and build a foundation for investigation; but that settling ne...
by TLCD96
Wed Aug 14, 2019 11:24 pm
Forum: Dhammic Stories
Topic: Luang Pa Liem on anger
Replies: 1
Views: 454

Luang Pa Liem on anger

Ajahn Sek (a Thai monk from WPP currently staying at Abhayagiri in California) recently shared a story for reflection; here it is from memory: Luang Pa Liem was walking around the monastery with Aj. Sek as his attendant when they came across an outhouse on the path. LPL went inside, presumably to us...
by TLCD96
Thu Jul 11, 2019 5:03 am
Forum: Abhidhamma
Topic: Trillions of mistakes per second when stuck in a bad mood
Replies: 9
Views: 820

Re: Trillions of mistakes per second when stuck in a bad mood

If, in an unwholesome state of mind, you're making millions and millions of "mistakes" per second, then in a wholesome state of mind you're making millions and millions of good actions each second. To me it sounds like the difference between a kilometer and a thousand meters.
by TLCD96
Wed May 08, 2019 6:56 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Uncle wants to move in...
Replies: 3
Views: 371

Uncle wants to move in...

Hi everyone, Recently it seems that my uncle has lost his house, so now he's planning on moving in with my dad, my sister, and myself for a couple of months. None of us feel too good about it. My sister and I suspect that it's because my dad would feel bad about saying no. My uncle has a history wit...
by TLCD96
Wed May 08, 2019 6:43 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: Semen retentive sex and Buddhist practice
Replies: 78
Views: 4970

Re: Semen retentive sex and Buddhist practice

A little more than a year ago I was engaging in sexual activity - but not sex - with my ex-girlfriend, and while we both were under the impression that it was somehow more spiritually beneficial, I think it might have been better to not do it at all. It was beneficial only to the extent that we didn...
by TLCD96
Tue Feb 26, 2019 10:37 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 926

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

No matter what you do, or how you do it, you're going to create problems for your group if Steve and Elly are an Item. Leave it be unless someone asks you to address it. It isn't your place. You're not having sex with your friends girlfriend, nor are you cheating on your partner with his friend. In...
by TLCD96
Mon Feb 25, 2019 9:17 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 926

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

Everyone in the world is "subject to happiness and suffering, and the law of kamma; actions still have consequences." So where does your responsibility lie? By your reasoning, you should then approach everyone you know and point out to them the possible consequences of their actions. Why is that yo...
by TLCD96
Mon Feb 25, 2019 6:18 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 926

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

Hi TLCD. When relationships are not inherently grounded in mutual long term goals; when relationships are generally mostly about sex or romantic indulgence; then often both young & older people search around for what they hope is a more ideal partner; which includes changing partners, snaking partn...
by TLCD96
Mon Feb 25, 2019 4:21 am
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 926

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

I really want to practice Dhamma but there's no Dhamma there. Best wishes. either bring the dhamma with you or do not attend. what else can you do? See, I know I should be minimizing time with them and have been considering ways in which I can do so, one of which is meditation and self-reflection; ...
by TLCD96
Sun Feb 24, 2019 9:39 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 926

How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

Hi all, Some back story. For the past few years I've had a small circle of friends I see on the weekends. They are not Dhamma practitioners; we all used to get together and smoke pot (I introduced it to the group), play video games and listen to music. Eventually pot fell out of it and we just play ...
by TLCD96
Thu Feb 07, 2019 6:33 am
Forum: Dhammaduta (Dhamma propagation)
Topic: Sanghas near Chicago?
Replies: 5
Views: 472

Re: Sanghas near Chicago?

Buddhanet's World Buddhist Directory returns 19 results for Theravadin centres in Illinois. https://tinyurl.com/ybnn34hg Thanks venerable! For non-rebirth Dhamma, browse this site: https://www.liberationpark.org/retreat/persrets.htm https://www.liberationpark.org/contact/chicago.htm Wondering what ...