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by bodom
Sun Dec 10, 2017 4:51 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Hello there
Replies: 6
Views: 48

Re: Hello there

Welcome!

:namaste:
by bodom
Sun Dec 10, 2017 2:57 am
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 180

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

Some people think that addicts are just normal people who have come under the spell of an addictive substance. I think that this is wrong and that thinking this will not lead to helpful advise for most addicts. Every year there are millions of people who take very addictive drugs in their treatment...
by bodom
Sat Dec 09, 2017 9:45 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 180

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

You don't have to provide me with such an answer, but it would be nice if you would. You speak with great confidence, hence I assume you have an answer to my question (but for some reason refuse to reveal it). Having struggled with addiction and having gotten sober, yes, I can speak with confidence...
by bodom
Sat Dec 09, 2017 9:09 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 180

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

No addict wants to stop using. They just want to be able to use there drug of choice without the consequences that go with it. That is the denial of the addict. That this time will be different. The belief that they will one day be able to use responsibly. This is the great delusion of every addict...
by bodom
Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:42 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 180

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

I was under the impression that this thread is for those people who want to live a life free from the suffering of addiction and what they can do about it. How does one want to want to live a life free from the suffering of addiction? I think this is what many addicts are struggling with. No addict...
by bodom
Sat Dec 09, 2017 6:54 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 180

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

This seems to take for granted that life (any life) is worth living and that one must do everything in one's power to continue living. I was under the impression that this thread is for those people who want to live a life free from the suffering of addiction and what they can do about it. :namaste:
by bodom
Sat Dec 09, 2017 5:30 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits
Replies: 22
Views: 180

Re: A thought on advice about quitting addictions and bad habits

Unfortunately for an addict and alcoholic it is a life or death situation. There is no cutting back or reducing use. You either stop taking the chemicals that are causing problems in your life or you continue to make excuses why you can't stop and gradually lose everything. Recovery cannot begin unt...
by bodom
Sat Dec 09, 2017 4:41 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: hi i am Eric
Replies: 6
Views: 67

Re: hi i am Eric

Welcome Eric.

:namaste:
by bodom
Sat Dec 09, 2017 5:39 am
Forum: Introductions
Topic: Glad to be back at Dhammawheel
Replies: 9
Views: 137

Re: Glad to be back at Dhammawheel

Welcome back Chris!

:namaste:
by bodom
Fri Dec 08, 2017 7:11 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?
Replies: 34
Views: 312

Re: How to exercise sense restraint in instances where aversion might arise?

Let the odour stop at the nose. Don't let it enter the heart to give rise to aversion. "In the sensed is only the sensed Bahiya..."

:namaste:
by bodom
Fri Dec 08, 2017 6:54 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?
Replies: 40
Views: 396

Re: If life is suffering, then wouldn't it be unethical to have children?

mddrill wrote:
Fri Dec 08, 2017 3:36 am
Wouldn't that be bringing a child into an existence which is suffering?
Life is not suffering. Life contains suffering. It also contains much joy and happiness as well.

:namaste:
by bodom
Thu Dec 07, 2017 9:01 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: The Contracted/Constricted Mind
Replies: 24
Views: 278

Re: The Contracted/Constricted Mind

SN 51:20 identifies a “constricted” mind as one accompanied by sloth and drowsiness; a “scattered” mind as one stirred up by pleasing sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and tactile sensations. “And how is desire inwardly constricted? Whatever desire is accompanied by sloth & drowsiness, conjoined with ...
by bodom
Tue Dec 05, 2017 3:49 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Buddhism and alcohol
Replies: 61
Views: 1037

Re: Buddhism and alcohol

The underlying cause is obvious, and clear. I lost my fancy house, and now I live in a ghetto. I have several pictures of my house, and I look at this pictures in tears. No, those are excuses why you continue to drink. It is ignorance and craving for your experience to be other than it is that is d...
by bodom
Mon Dec 04, 2017 7:07 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Day to Day activities
Replies: 7
Views: 140

Re: Day to Day activities

DCM wrote:
Mon Dec 04, 2017 6:41 pm
Hi Bodom, i can see how to apply that when carrying out Point 4 and 5, but what about points 1,2 and 3? Would you have mindfulness completely grounded in the body when talking, working and interacting with people?
Of course. The body is always there wherever you go.

:namaste:
by bodom
Mon Dec 04, 2017 5:28 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: Day to Day activities
Replies: 7
Views: 140

Re: Day to Day activities

The single most helpful thing I have found is to stay grounded in the body, to have mindfulness completely immersed in the body from head to toe. It is useful to have the body as an anchor to keep oneself from getting lost in thoughts and daydreams which takes one out of the present moment. :namaste:
by bodom
Fri Dec 01, 2017 5:35 pm
Forum: Lounge
Topic: Buddhism and alcohol
Replies: 61
Views: 1037

Re: Buddhism and alcohol

You have a plan that sounds like it might work, but you have to stick to it! I almost done it, sober and in good mood, changed my route away from the liquor store, but another store popped up. You already know the rest, 7 beers. There are changes in my job for the very worse, next week I have to do...
by bodom
Fri Dec 01, 2017 3:55 pm
Forum: Dhammaduta (Dhamma propagation)
Topic: wat metta in Valley Center CA USA
Replies: 17
Views: 618

Re: wat metta in Valley Center CA USA

I have sent money orders along with written book requests. The monastery pays for the postage and has sent me literally dozens of free books and it is good to help them to be able to continue offering free Dhamma books to the world.

:namaste:
by bodom
Fri Dec 01, 2017 3:24 pm
Forum: General Theravāda Meditation
Topic: what are all the direct paths
Replies: 9
Views: 229

Re: what are all the direct paths

Not clinging is the surest most direct path: "Good sir Moggallana, I went to the Blessed One, and after paying homage to him, I stood at one side and said: ‘Venerable sir, how in brief is a bhikkhu liberated in the destruction of craving, one who has reached the ultimate end, the ultimate goal, one ...
by bodom
Fri Dec 01, 2017 3:13 pm
Forum: Introductions
Topic: I am back
Replies: 19
Views: 255

Re: I am back

Welcome back! I always enjoy your contributions to the forum. :thumbsup:

:namaste:
by bodom
Thu Nov 30, 2017 5:02 pm
Forum: Sīla
Topic: Right Speech: Virtue Signaling
Replies: 46
Views: 827

Re: Right Speech: Virtue Signaling

Off topic posts removed.

:focus:

:namaste: