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by JohnK
Wed Mar 20, 2019 4:51 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: How to not be dissapointed by other people in your path to englightenment?
Replies: 17
Views: 418

Re: How to not be dissapointed by other people in your path to englightenment?

...why is it that internally we want everyone to like us and behave in a way that pleases us, Because it is gratifying. why does this lead to suffering, Because it is not reliable. and how to over come it? By dropping our attachment and finding a reliable source of gratification. Here I am followin...
by JohnK
Fri Mar 15, 2019 4:25 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Everything happens for a reason
Replies: 23
Views: 370

Re: Everything happens for a reason

For whom? A sotapanna? I was not intending a limitation regarding to whom it would apply...happy to hear a differing opinion though. Does an infant have "an opportunity to see it clearly which would" push him toward nibanna? Does someone facing a shooting squad ... having the final stage of rabies ...
by JohnK
Fri Mar 15, 2019 2:11 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why do wise people get cheated by cunning people?
Replies: 34
Views: 481

Re: Why do wise people get cheated by cunning people?

Maybe wise people don't suffer from being cheated, so they don't worry about it and aren't "on the lookout" for it. Instead, they are "on the lookout" for opportunities to develop mental qualities that can't be taken from them.
by JohnK
Thu Mar 14, 2019 10:58 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Everything happens for a reason
Replies: 23
Views: 370

Re: Everything happens for a reason

binocular wrote:
Thu Mar 14, 2019 5:11 pm
JohnK wrote:
Thu Mar 14, 2019 2:06 pm
alfa wrote:
Thu Mar 14, 2019 8:12 am
each event is, whether or not you're aware, pushing you toward nibanna
No, but each event presents an opportunity to see it clearly which would.
For whom? A sotapanna?
I was not intending a limitation regarding to whom it would apply...happy to hear a differing opinion though.
by JohnK
Thu Mar 14, 2019 2:06 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Everything happens for a reason
Replies: 23
Views: 370

Re: Everything happens for a reason

alfa wrote:
Thu Mar 14, 2019 8:12 am
each event is, whether or not you're aware, pushing you toward nibanna
No, but each event presents an opportunity to see it clearly which would.
by JohnK
Tue Mar 12, 2019 8:58 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: How to not be dissapointed by other people in your path to englightenment?
Replies: 17
Views: 418

Re: How to not be dissapointed by other people in your path to englightenment?

I still think it is important to reflect on the expectation that is the cause of your disappointment. However, I was just now reading the Metta chapter in Ajahn Sucitto's Parami that may be helpful/relevant to some degree (I have added some boldface): Consciousness is just this awareness of ‘being w...
by JohnK
Tue Mar 12, 2019 7:53 pm
Forum: Theravāda for Beginners
Topic: How to not be dissapointed by other people in your path to englightenment?
Replies: 17
Views: 418

Re: How to not be dissapointed by other people in your path to englightenment?

...Basicallly i'm asking how to not be dissapointed by ignorance around you... Disappointment is about something not meeting an expectation. So, it might be worth reflecting on what expectation (belief/view) you have that is not being met. (Where does that expectation come from? Why do you hold it?...
by JohnK
Mon Mar 11, 2019 11:30 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Comparison of Buddhist Meditation Traditions
Replies: 5
Views: 158

Re: Comparison of Buddhist Meditation Traditions

bodom wrote:
Mon Mar 11, 2019 11:00 pm
There is a book by the Dalai Lama called One Teacher Many Traditions. It is the book you are looking for...
Many thanks -- and it's even on my shelf -- waiting patiently!
(I'll have to see if it is at the right level for my friend -- not too academic/technical -- not too breezy.)
by JohnK
Mon Mar 11, 2019 10:41 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Living in the NOW
Replies: 27
Views: 416

Re: Living in the NOW

...they go so far as to say only the NOW is real... I hate to risk being "new age," but now is the only time anything can happen . That is, anything that ever happened happened when it was "now;" anything that will ever happen will happen when it is "now." Now is the temporal realm or territory of ...
by JohnK
Mon Mar 11, 2019 8:14 pm
Forum: Connections to Other Paths
Topic: Comparison of Buddhist Meditation Traditions
Replies: 5
Views: 158

Comparison of Buddhist Meditation Traditions

A friend asked if I was aware of a specific book on natural awareness meditation and/or the author. I said no, but it sounded like something related to Dzogchen. I was able to confirm this. I told him about the book by Ajahn Amaro, Small Boat, Great Mountain: Theravadan Reflections on The Natural Gr...
by JohnK
Sun Mar 03, 2019 11:56 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: What is Gossip? How to distinguish?
Replies: 13
Views: 212

Re: What is Gossip? How to distinguish?

retrofuturist wrote:
Sun Mar 03, 2019 11:09 pm
...their pet obsessions...
Metta,
Paul. :)
Interesting way to put it in the context you raise. :)
by JohnK
Sun Mar 03, 2019 10:55 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Stopping thoughts before they occur and periods of non-thinking
Replies: 15
Views: 300

Re: Stopping thoughts before they occur and periods of non-thinking

..I'm talking from awareness which means I haven't thought about what I'm going to say before I say it, it just comes out in the moment!... Any tips on socializing and conversing when your not thinking?... Suggestion: Perhaps more importantly it would be helpful for you to evaluate if what comes ou...
by JohnK
Sun Mar 03, 2019 10:36 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Why are we attached to the world?
Replies: 23
Views: 397

Re: Why are we attached to the world?

... So, again, why are we so attached? One reason: we can find some relief there -- like the leper "cauterizing his body over a pit of embers." https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/mn/mn.075x.than.html Another reason: It's all we've got, and we don't (yet) know an alternative. Sometimes dukkha ...
by JohnK
Mon Feb 25, 2019 4:15 pm
Forum: Family Life and Relationships
Topic: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?
Replies: 16
Views: 361

Re: How to confront a love triangle - or should I?

TLCD96, Just a few thoughts (and forgive me if these are things you already know). If you have not already done this, you might do some honest reflection regarding your true motivation and intention (intention is the key to your own kamma in this, right?). Are you mostly trying to protect Tom? Are y...
by JohnK
Fri Feb 22, 2019 3:07 pm
Forum: General Theravāda discussion
Topic: Simile of the Saw
Replies: 8
Views: 163

Re: Simile of the Saw

Srilankaputra wrote:
Fri Feb 22, 2019 10:46 am
But is it possible for a lay person to live like this ?
Perhaps relevant (though not a lay person):
http://www.wiseattention.org/blog/2012/ ... en-gyatso/