Hi all,
I have had a lot of advice over the years about how to deal with a busy mind, but never really been able to implement one to any real effect.
For instance I understand that the best course of action is to be just OK with any thoughts that arise, and I am sure this might well work for some. I can only speak for myself clearly but that approach doesn't seem to cut it. It feels a little like avoidance or some sort of safety behaviour that has no real effect on shutting the mind up sufficiently to be able to focus.
What are you experiences/thoughts re this?
Thanks,
Tony...
Cannot ignore thought...
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Mindfulness is in fact the opposite of avoidance or shutting the mind up. It is actively staying with the thought as an observer, as opposed to identifying with it. If it's an upsetting thought, you make peace with it, let it peacefully coexist within you without struggling with it or taking it personally. The magic of it is that when you stop struggling with your negative thoughts, they leave on their own.Myotai wrote: It feels a little like avoidance or some sort of safety behaviour that has no real effect on shutting the mind up sufficiently to be able to focus.
quidquid Latine dictum sit altum videtur
(Anything in Latin sounds profound.)
(Anything in Latin sounds profound.)
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Thanks for your reply. I guess its the "peacefully coexisting" bit that implies that you have already found a way of separating yourself from the thought.waterchan wrote:Mindfulness is in fact the opposite of avoidance or shutting the mind up. It is actively staying with the thought as an observer, as opposed to identifying with it. If it's an upsetting thought, you make peace with it, let it peacefully coexist within you without struggling with it or taking it personally. The magic of it is that when you stop struggling with your negative thoughts, they leave on their own.Myotai wrote: It feels a little like avoidance or some sort of safety behaviour that has no real effect on shutting the mind up sufficiently to be able to focus.
Its this bit that I still struggle with. If I could create a dichotomy as you describe then I could see the thought as a separate mental event and not subscribe or be taken in by it. Currently I cannot.
Tony...
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did you try labeling it : "thinking thinking thinking " ?
you can add reason to it - not doing it to all thoughts - just those you think are unwholesome and not helpful - thoughts about a song "hearing*3" angry thoughts "angry*3" imagination " imagining*3" all thoughts which dont seem to help you in life labelt them as "thinking"
you can add reason to it - not doing it to all thoughts - just those you think are unwholesome and not helpful - thoughts about a song "hearing*3" angry thoughts "angry*3" imagination " imagining*3" all thoughts which dont seem to help you in life labelt them as "thinking"
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But as anapana is my main practice labeling seems to drag me away from my initial focuspurple planet wrote:did you try labeling it : "thought thought thought" ?
you can add reason to it - not doing it to all thoughts - just those you think are unwholesome
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Consider broadening your practise to include tools and techniques which might be helpful in this case.Myotai wrote:
But as anapana is my main practice labeling seems to drag me away from my initial focus
Then,
saturated with joy,
you will put an end to suffering and stress.
SN 9.11
saturated with joy,
you will put an end to suffering and stress.
SN 9.11
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Don't think of it as a dichotomy. Thoughts are really just visitors. All thoughts and feelings are like members of the library that is your mind — they come, they stay for a while, and then they leave when their business is done. If it's a good feeling, you can't cling onto it and force it to stay. It has to leave some time. If it's a bad feeling, there's no use worrying about it and telling it to scram. It has a valid library membership — it has the right to be there! Negative thoughts by themselves are actually quite harmless. They only become a problem when you get negative at the negativity. The problem isn't anger; it's getting involved with the anger. Sometimes we get angry with the anger, thinking "You are evil! You don't belong here in my mind!" Other times, we associate ourselves with it, thinking "Come, anger, you are righteous and well-deserved! Let us fight together as one!"Myotai wrote:Thanks for your reply. I guess its the "peacefully coexisting" bit that implies that you have already found a way of separating yourself from the thought.
Its this bit that I still struggle with. If I could create a dichotomy as you describe then I could see the thought as a separate mental event and not subscribe or be taken in by it. Currently I cannot.
When you watch the anger, acknowledge it, make peace with it instead of grabbing it by the collar, or being possessive and thinking "This anger is mine", it gets bored and eventually leaves.
quidquid Latine dictum sit altum videtur
(Anything in Latin sounds profound.)
(Anything in Latin sounds profound.)
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If you're doing e.g. third tetrad activity and experiencing the mind (seems to be already happening), move in the third tetrad alongside the breath and gladden & calm the thing. No need to set the breath aside (your "initial focus", I assume), but there may be benefit in continuing to refine how anapanasati is undertaken since third tetrad occurs with the breath, as they all do, and not instead of it.Myotai wrote:But as anapana is my main practice labeling seems to drag me away from my initial focuspurple planet wrote:did you try labeling it : "thought thought thought" ?
you can add reason to it - not doing it to all thoughts - just those you think are unwholesome
- "And how is it, bhikkhus, that by protecting oneself one protects others? By the pursuit, development, and cultivation of the four establishments of mindfulness. It is in such a way that by protecting oneself one protects others.
"And how is it, bhikkhus, that by protecting others one protects oneself? By patience, harmlessness, goodwill, and sympathy. It is in such a way that by protecting others one protects oneself.
- Sedaka Sutta [SN 47.19]
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If you cannot ignore thought, try following it and see where it leads. Does it lead to peace and freedom or the opposite? After some time, you will realise that some thoughts are simply not worth entertaining. You can actually do this in your daily life. The important thing is to not forget (sati) to step back a bit from your thoughts.Myotai wrote:Hi all,
I have had a lot of advice over the years about how to deal with a busy mind, but never really been able to implement one to any real effect.
For instance I understand that the best course of action is to be just OK with any thoughts that arise, and I am sure this might well work for some. I can only speak for myself clearly but that approach doesn't seem to cut it. It feels a little like avoidance or some sort of safety behaviour that has no real effect on shutting the mind up sufficiently to be able to focus.
What are you experiences/thoughts re this?
Thanks,
Tony...
And what is right speech? Abstaining from lying, from divisive speech, from abusive speech, & from idle chatter: This is called right speech.
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Great answers to your question from Joseph Goldstine.
One of the best hours I invested!
http://www.dharmaseed.org/teacher/96/talk/3552/
One of the best hours I invested!
http://www.dharmaseed.org/teacher/96/talk/3552/
“As the lamp consumes oil, the path realises Nibbana”
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Hi Myotai,
If you're doing anapanasati, I'd just go back to following the breath every time that you felt like you were distracted by thoughts. It is part of the practice, including trying to learn how to deal with the annoyance, frustration or whatever.
Also, I would think about what the five hindrances are, the seven factors of enlightenment, and how they apply to the practice. Pay attention to how they come up (along with how they would cease), either during the practice or whenever you're contemplating about it afterwards.
Part of the first tetrad is to learn how to calm yourself with the way the breathing feels. The skill that you develop during this should also apply during the rest of the tetrads... so I wouldn't skip it that easily. If the thoughts pull you away from it, learn how to calmly go back to the breath.
Also, there is no dichotomy that is going on. There is no "yourself" that you're trying to separate.
If you're doing anapanasati, I'd just go back to following the breath every time that you felt like you were distracted by thoughts. It is part of the practice, including trying to learn how to deal with the annoyance, frustration or whatever.
Also, I would think about what the five hindrances are, the seven factors of enlightenment, and how they apply to the practice. Pay attention to how they come up (along with how they would cease), either during the practice or whenever you're contemplating about it afterwards.
Part of the first tetrad is to learn how to calm yourself with the way the breathing feels. The skill that you develop during this should also apply during the rest of the tetrads... so I wouldn't skip it that easily. If the thoughts pull you away from it, learn how to calmly go back to the breath.
Also, there is no dichotomy that is going on. There is no "yourself" that you're trying to separate.
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Hi, Myotai. Could you tell us what method of meditation you have been practicing? Sometimes the way you deal with distraction depends on what method you are using.
The non-doing of any evil,
The performance of what's skillful,
The cleansing of one's own mind:
This is the Buddhas' teaching.
The performance of what's skillful,
The cleansing of one's own mind:
This is the Buddhas' teaching.
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Sometimes thoughts are like small children wanting attention, so perhaps you can give them a little attention and they will wander off in due course.Myotai wrote:Hi all,
For instance I understand that the best course of action is to be just OK with any thoughts that arise, and I am sure this might well work for some.
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