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Eradicating sex drive

Buddhist ethical conduct including the Five Precepts (Pañcasikkhāpada), and Eightfold Ethical Conduct (Aṭṭhasīla).
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Hey, I'm curious: Has anyone here any personal experience, success or familiarity with those states of equanimity and deep calm associated with renunciation of sense-pleasures?

I've settled for the relatively minor state of calm that arises from understanding the impermanence of conditions. You sorta have to when you reach my age. Oh yeah. Speaking of age, this whole thread can be resolved with that simple solution. If you live long enough that should eradicate your sex drive. :sage:

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Higher than sojourning in heavens supreme,
Higher than empire over all the worlds,
Is Fruit of Entrance to the Dhamma Stream.
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The sex drive will diminish naturally on its own if you don't indulge in sexual desires. But you must abstain mentally as well, not just physically, otherwise you will create a lot of tension and frustration. The sexual desire is not different from other desires. The more you engage in it, the stronger it becomes.
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I was an Orthodox Christian for some time and a pious one for only less then two years (before leaving Christianity) and in my, although maybe short, experience- it is quite possible. Orthodox Christianity has ascetic writings from second, third and fourth centuries CE that were very helpful. One of the most important things noted in them (interestingly, I later found similar things in Hindu writing) is the dependance of gluttony and lust. Some of those ascetics go as far as to say that one who is in control of his desire for food and drink will not be bothered at all by the sex urge, although I have not reached that in practice, it came close. The more I practiced restraint in eating, the easier it was to practice chastity. I ate no more then to satisfy hunger and only plain food, no snacks, sweets, spices, juices and similar stuff, mostly just whole grain bread, veggies either raw or boiled with only a little salt and on rare occasions fish, I drank only water, only when thirsty and during that time I had no problem in restraining myself from doing or desiring to do anything sexual. Even though I did follow some ascetic practices that to the modern eye would seem harsh, like showering with cold water and sleeping on the floor, I did not wear myself down, I didn't practice "self-torture", while living like that I went to my job and did it normally and I even worked-out. After leaving Christianity, I stopped with such practices, but after some time returned to some of them, being inspired by ancient Greek philosophers; I continue to practice a restrained diet (although I drink juices and eat fruits, and I avoid snacks and sweets for health, not ascetic reasons) and it still helps a lot with avoidance of sexuality, which I still practice.

Is there some mention of this in Buddhism, of the connection between the urges for food and sex?

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I don't think it's a healthy attitude to take, this notion of wanting to 'eradicate' sex drive. In fact, it can lead to neuroses, and as we have seen with many of the Churches; the twisting of a natural urge into something sinister and harmful, due to it's constant suppression.

Better to focus on cultivating love, compassion, equanimity, and sympathetic joy for all beings first, imho. Otherwise a kind of resentment against women can develop, even a kind of fear that they are trying to 'get' you. I can recall this mentality creeping in when I lived in a Hindu ashram, practicing complete celibacy. Not with all the brahmacaris, but with a few of them. In fact the most enthusiastic and dedicated one, as I recall, after years of devoted practice and fearing getting ensnared by a woman, ended up moving to India and getting married. Sometimes the harder you fight something, the stronger it gets.

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Higher than lordship over all earth,
Higher than sojourning in heavens supreme,
Higher than empire over all the worlds,
Is Fruit of Entrance to the Dhamma Stream.
—Dhammapada

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