Jhana4 wrote:It will help to substitute the word "sex" for "BDSM" when thinking about it. Just use the standard Buddhist advice for sexual thoughts during meditation. That is all BDSM is, another kind of sex.
Attitude is important. Many meditation masters say that fighting a thought or desire will only give it strength, while watching it without resistance will eventually dissipate it.
lotus flower wrote:
when a thought about SM appears i think it: this thought is full of desire, full of ignorance and full of anger. and i see the thoughts dies.
Crazy cloud wrote:Maybe this http://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/eightfold-l/conversations/topics/3800, can provide some useful wisdom to your struggle
lotus flower wrote:when a thought about SM appears i think it: this thought is full of desire, full of ignorance and full of anger. and i see the thought's end.
Jhana4 wrote:lotus flower wrote:when a thought about SM appears i think it: this thought is full of desire, full of ignorance and full of anger. and i see the thought's end.
I'm a native American English speaker. In my language " full of ignorance and full of anger." has a connotation of negativity, disgust, in other resistance. People in my language who use those terms are usually referring to something they are resisting. Meditation teachers have told me that when you fight a thought or urge, when you resist it you make it stronger. You might make more progress if you work at accepting your bdsm thoughts and desires first. "Accepting" == seeing them without having a reaction to the thoughts or desires.
The idea in the quote sounds like a good one, changing the wording to something more neutral, "accepting" might help.
"This thought and desire is fine, nothing wrong with it, but I don't want what it cultivates, I know it is a dead end. I let it go"
lotus flower wrote:Dear forum members!
i was thinking and meditated many times about SM is very negative and if i would continue it i would makes more bad karmas. i don't want turn to SM. i turn to Buddha's site. i turn to Dhamma's site. i was thinking many times. and i focused on METTA many times.
this way was very strong.... i had a lot of bad feelings and i had some strange and stupid dreams. my emotions was wild. and i abrupt cried while i meditated. i was depressed.
a lot of memory about my SM experiences appeared in my mind while i meditated. i often couldn't meditated in those weeks. i was thinking about to try an other way.
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