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Meditation while Parenting

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Meditation while Parenting

Postby wizi » Mon Mar 21, 2011 8:38 am

All beings like yourself are responsible for their own actions. Suffering or happiness is created through one's relationship to experience, not by experience itself. Although I wish only the best for you, I know that your happiness or unhappiness depends on your actions, not on my wishes for you.
May you not be caught in reactivity.

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Re: Meditation while Parenting

Postby Ben » Mon Mar 21, 2011 10:18 am

Greetings wizi

I can assure you that as a practitioner, parenting is one of the most difficult yet rewarding challenges that I have ever faced. One of the issues with parenting is that it is never a stable environment. You change, your children change and the difficulties you both face as children and parents also change. In some ways, parenting gets easier yet in others, more difficult. One of the great benefits of maintaining daily practice of (predominantly) vipassana is that I can arrest the previously sub-conscious urge to respond negatively to certain situations and respond appropriately to a given situation. I am not suggesting that by maintaining your daily practice that parenting becomes easy. There are still difficulties but the cultivation of equanimity, sympathetic joy, compassion, loving kindess and no small measure of wisdom has a positive influence on family relations.
kind regards

Ben
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Meditation while Parenting

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Re: Meditation while Parenting

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Re: Meditation while Parenting

Postby wizi » Tue Mar 22, 2011 11:45 am

All beings like yourself are responsible for their own actions. Suffering or happiness is created through one's relationship to experience, not by experience itself. Although I wish only the best for you, I know that your happiness or unhappiness depends on your actions, not on my wishes for you.
May you not be caught in reactivity.

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Re: Meditation while Parenting

Postby andre9999 » Tue Mar 22, 2011 11:58 am

Why not do a shorter retreat?

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Re: Meditation while Parenting

Postby Ben » Tue Mar 22, 2011 12:17 pm

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Meditation while Parenting

Postby wizi » Wed Apr 06, 2011 6:42 pm

Thanks Ben!

This thread introduced me to Shinzen Young and for the past week or so, we have been exploring his video teachings on . Here, he gave his take on Zen Parenting right here which I would like to take this opportunity to share:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUGigTkD ... re=related

In the video, Shinzen guided a mother-to-be that a baby is a dynamic nothingness, like a little roshi just doing his stuff and going through his field space of expansion and contraction, and his/her parents are going through their 'sattipathi'(?) with the baby..in their feel, image and talk space.

We really wanna know at what point does the little roshi become a conditioned being? Pre-school??
All beings like yourself are responsible for their own actions. Suffering or happiness is created through one's relationship to experience, not by experience itself. Although I wish only the best for you, I know that your happiness or unhappiness depends on your actions, not on my wishes for you.
May you not be caught in reactivity.

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Re: Meditation while Parenting

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