We all have bad "kamma" (which is mixed here with vipaka which is what the monk meant) so it seems legit that being gay is "bad vipaka(not kamma)"
and the monk could easily said that being a jew is also bad vipaka - and that would be fine
what was the reason ? maybe the monk thought that wolf needs to hear what he said - maybe that was skilful talk
I do think that it is clear that no one said that gays are "bad" and we dont know the situation and what made the monk say what he said
like someone here said : a monk told him if he will meditate all night he will see divas - and it wasnt true - but the fact he stayed awake helped him a lot in life
i think that when wolf1 will return she would be able to share a bit more - on the conversation maybe (if she wants)
the monk didnt say she would advance slower cause shes gay - thats wolf1 thoughts
god knows i got confused by some dhamma advice in the past and still do - a lot
not saying the monk is right !!!!! - but i think that from the knowledge we all have no one can say his wrong either
also to consider is he might have told wolf1 - to ask him whatever she wants anytime - (like her teacher) and didnt expect her to go on forums to ask about it - maybe he could have thought it could help solve something like a porn addiction !!
plus im not sure i think this is a talk for a new thread - but lets say he is an arahant with some good super powers - which make him good enough to know her past kamma but not good enough to know he shouldnt tell her that
- possible ?