If you have trust enough in this people you can just tell them that you are trying to eat only until 12 and that you would appreciate their help.Alobha wrote:Heya,
I've tried for a while to be more moderate in eating without any breakthrough so far. Whenever I have a good run and get into a good routine of eating healthy, what usually happens that occasions out of my control screw the routine in a very bad way.
Examples:
Example A: A friend comes by in the evening for a social get-together. We make salad, we get more fruits instead of sweets but the point of eating late due to the social occassion remains. I usually don't manage to get back to my eating routine (one-time-eater, not eating late afternoon) for several days and not without a big struggle.
Example B: I visit my mother's place. There are a lot of sweets, there is tasty leftover food from yesterday "that has to be eaten today" and there's the occasion of bonding with my brother by cooking together. What follows is that I eat two meals and a varying degree of sweets. The following days I'm prone to buying sweets myself, eating more than one meal even when alone and not getting back to my routine.
What works best is when I have time before 12 to prepare a meal for myself, eat it, and then be done with it.
The main problem for me seems to be the social component of eating. When I lack control over the circumstances of how I practice moderation in eating, things go from good to bad quickly. Socialization and the impact of it is something that accompanies people even when alone. And once one's personal rules, routines and standards are broken due to "special circumstances", more slipups are the norm for me. I just really do not care anymore for some days after whenever I bent the rules for the special circumstances. I adjust my routines to suit other person's desires and routines and just feel like I punch myself in the face very hard every time I do so.
Do you have any suggestion what I can do to stop this unhealthy cycle?
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dhammarelax