He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
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Remembering my brother
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Remembering my brother
by Ben » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:20 am
My older brother, Justin, passed away on this day ten years ago on his 45th birthday.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
...he wondered whether there was any love between human beings that did not rest upon some sort of self-delusion.
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Re: Remembering my brother
by Khalil Bodhi » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:28 am
To avoid all evil, to cultivate good, and to cleanse one's mind — this is the teaching of the Buddhas.
-Dhp. 183
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-Dhp. 183
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Re: Remembering my brother
by tiltbillings » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:29 am
Sadness. Ten years is a long time; I hope the sadness has been tempered over these years with fondness and good mermories.
What is the use of his knowledge
pertaining to the number of insects in the whole world?
Rather, inquire into his knowledge of
that which is to be practised by us
-- Dharmakirti
This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond.
SN I, 38.
Níl sa saol seo ach ceo
There is naught in this life but mist
Is ní bheimid beo ach seal beag gearr.
And we will not be alive but a short hard time.
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Re: Remembering my brother
by cooran » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:35 am
May he have fortunate rebirths and always have contact with the Dhamma.
---The trouble is that you think you have time---
---It's not what happens to you in life that is important ~ it's what you do with it ---
---It's not what happens to you in life that is important ~ it's what you do with it ---
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Re: Remembering my brother
by plwk » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:40 am
Bhikkhus, if you develop and make much this one thing,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
What is it? It is recollecting the Enlightened One.
If this single thing is recollected and made much,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
Anguttara-Nikaya: Ekanipata: Ekadhammapali: Pañhamavagga
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it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
What is it? It is recollecting the Enlightened One.
If this single thing is recollected and made much,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
Anguttara-Nikaya: Ekanipata: Ekadhammapali: Pañhamavagga
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Re: Remembering my brother
by bodom » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:28 am
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Re: Remembering my brother
by Ben » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:58 am
tiltbillings wrote:Sadness. Ten years is a long time; I hope the sadness has been tempered over these years with fondness and good mermories.
Indeed it has. Metta Bhavana and the sharing of one's merits everyday has helped to transform the grief.
Thanks everyone.
with metta,
Ben
...he wondered whether there was any love between human beings that did not rest upon some sort of self-delusion.
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Re: Remembering my brother
by yawares » Mon Oct 15, 2012 5:29 pm
Ben wrote:My older brother, Justin, passed away on this day ten years ago on his 45th birthday.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
Dear Ben,
I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis.
And I think he'll always watch over his wife/children:
I'll be there : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oRiHOtjGQ08
yawares
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Re: Remembering my brother
by David N. Snyder » Mon Oct 15, 2012 8:32 pm
yawares wrote:I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis.
Or at Tusita heaven to hear Metteyya teach the Dhamma. 
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Re: Remembering my brother
by retrofuturist » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:47 pm
If you have asked me of the origination of unease, then I shall explain it to you in accordance with my understanding:
Whatever various forms of unease there are in the world, They originate founded in encumbering accumulation. (Pārāyanavagga)
'We should not congratulate someone on the success of their misdeeds, but on the contrary should endeavour to advise him or her to lead a more skilful and wholesome life. If such advice is ignored then we can only give up and let go' - Phra Panyapatipo
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Whatever various forms of unease there are in the world, They originate founded in encumbering accumulation. (Pārāyanavagga)
'We should not congratulate someone on the success of their misdeeds, but on the contrary should endeavour to advise him or her to lead a more skilful and wholesome life. If such advice is ignored then we can only give up and let go' - Phra Panyapatipo
Dharma Wheel (Mahayana / Vajrayana forum)
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Re: Remembering my brother
by Cittasanto » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:50 pm
This offering maybe right, or wrong, but it is one, the other, both, or neither!
With Metta
Upāsaka Cittasanto
Blog - Some Suttas Translated.
"Others will misconstrue reality due to their personal perspectives, doggedly holding onto and not easily discarding them; We shall not misconstrue reality due to our own personal perspectives, nor doggedly holding onto them, but will discard them easily. This effacement shall be done."
With Metta
Upāsaka Cittasanto
Blog - Some Suttas Translated.
"Others will misconstrue reality due to their personal perspectives, doggedly holding onto and not easily discarding them; We shall not misconstrue reality due to our own personal perspectives, nor doggedly holding onto them, but will discard them easily. This effacement shall be done."
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Re: Remembering my brother
by sattva » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:35 pm
sending metta
Wishing: In gladness and in safety,
May all beings be at ease.
---from the Metta Sutta
May all beings be at ease.
---from the Metta Sutta
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Re: Remembering my brother
by Billymac29 » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:19 am
With metta
"whatever one frequently thinks and ponders upon will be the inclination of one's mind"
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Re: Remembering my brother
by Ben » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:27 am
Thanks everyone.
I thought you might be interested to read his obituary.
It has been good to read it again all these years later.
kind regards,
Ben
I thought you might be interested to read his obituary.
It has been good to read it again all these years later.
kind regards,
Ben
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Re: Remembering my brother
by Dan74 » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:45 am
What a loss it must've been to all who knew him, especially family and friends...
May you all be well.
May you all be well.
_/|\_
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Re: Remembering my brother
by Reductor » Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:37 am
Michael
The thoughts I've expressed in the above post are carefully considered and offered in good faith.
And friendliness towards the world is happiness for him who is forbearing with living beings. -- Ud. 2:1
To his own ruin the fool gains knowledge, for it cleaves his head and destroys his innate goodness. -- Dhp 72
The thoughts I've expressed in the above post are carefully considered and offered in good faith.
And friendliness towards the world is happiness for him who is forbearing with living beings. -- Ud. 2:1
To his own ruin the fool gains knowledge, for it cleaves his head and destroys his innate goodness. -- Dhp 72
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Re: Remembering my brother
by yawares » Sat Oct 20, 2012 6:04 pm
David N. Snyder wrote:yawares wrote:I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis.
Dear David,
Oh..I pray that Justin may be reborn there too
...but I THINK a deva @ Tavatimsa can fly to listen to Metteyya's dhamma in Tusita too???I
to be @ Tusita heaven MYSELF...But afraid I'll never be a qualified candidate 
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