Remembering my brother

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Remembering my brother

Postby Ben » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:20 am

My older brother, Justin, passed away on this day ten years ago on his 45th birthday.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
:candle:
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Khalil Bodhi » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:28 am

:candle:
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby tiltbillings » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:29 am

Sadness. Ten years is a long time; I hope the sadness has been tempered over these years with fondness and good mermories.
    >> Do you see a man wise [enlightened/ariya] in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.<<
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby cooran » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:35 am

May he have fortunate rebirths and always have contact with the Dhamma. :candle:
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby plwk » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:40 am

:candle:
Bhikkhus, if you develop and make much this one thing,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
What is it? It is recollecting the Enlightened One.
If this single thing is recollected and made much,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby bodom » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:28 am

:candle: :heart:

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This is our foundation: to have sati, recollection, and sampajañña, self-awareness, whether standing, walking, sitting, or reclining. Whatever arises, just leave it be, don't cling to it. Be it like or dislike, happiness or suffering, doubt or certainty. Don't try to label everything, just know it. See that all the things that arise in the mind are simply sensations. They are transient. They arise, exist and cease. That's all there is to them, they have no self or being, they are neither ''us'' nor ''them.'' They are not worthy of clinging to, any of them. - Ajahn Chah

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Ben » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:58 am

tiltbillings wrote:Sadness. Ten years is a long time; I hope the sadness has been tempered over these years with fondness and good mermories.


Indeed it has. Metta Bhavana and the sharing of one's merits everyday has helped to transform the grief.
Thanks everyone.
with metta,

Ben
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Kim OHara » Mon Oct 15, 2012 11:45 am

:candle:

:namaste:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby yawares » Mon Oct 15, 2012 5:29 pm

Ben wrote:My older brother, Justin, passed away on this day ten years ago on his 45th birthday.
He left behind his wife and three young girls.
To you and your girls, I dedicate my merits.
:candle:


Dear Ben,
I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:
And I think he'll always watch over his wife/children:

I'll be there : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oRiHOtjGQ08

:candle: :heart: :candle:
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby mikenz66 » Mon Oct 15, 2012 6:24 pm

:candle:

:anjali:
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby David N. Snyder » Mon Oct 15, 2012 8:32 pm

yawares wrote:I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:


:thumbsup: Or at Tusita heaven to hear Metteyya teach the Dhamma.

:candle:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Paul Davy » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:47 pm

:candle:
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Cittasanto » Mon Oct 15, 2012 9:50 pm

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(The mendicants asked) What are the two [types of persons]?
(The Lord Buddha responded) The malicious, or the inwardly angry, and the one with (blind) faith or the one who holds things incorrectly.
Mendicants, these two [types of persons] defame the Tathāgata.”
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby sattva » Mon Oct 15, 2012 10:35 pm

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby badscooter » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:19 am

:candle:

With metta
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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Ben » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:27 am

Thanks everyone.
I thought you might be interested to read his obituary.
It has been good to read it again all these years later.
kind regards,

Ben


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“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Dan74 » Tue Oct 16, 2012 1:45 am

What a loss it must've been to all who knew him, especially family and friends...

May you all be well.
_/|\_

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby SamKR » Tue Oct 16, 2012 2:38 am

:candle:

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby Reductor » Tue Oct 16, 2012 5:37 am

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Re: Remembering my brother

Postby yawares » Sat Oct 20, 2012 6:04 pm

David N. Snyder wrote:
yawares wrote:I wish your older brother, Justin, be reborn into the Tavatimsa Deva World...so close to Sakka 'the king of devas/devis. :heart: :anjali:


:thumbsup: Or at Tusita heaven to hear Metteyya teach the Dhamma.

:candle:

Dear David,
Oh..I pray that Justin may be reborn there too :anjali: ...but I THINK a deva @ Tavatimsa can fly to listen to Metteyya's dhamma in Tusita too???

I :heart: to be @ Tusita heaven MYSELF...But afraid I'll never be a qualified candidate :cry:
yawares :cry:


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