For three days now I have been trying to meditate and follow the five precepts.
I think correct speech is going to give me trouble.
Until now I used to lie from time to time, mostly not to disappoint my friends or family, or to hide things I am ashamed of. This I think I can fix: not to lie, just stop lying, right? Even if it can be hard.
Dont beat yourself up when you slip up, correct your mistake, and retake the resolve.
Ajisai wrote:My problem concerns criticism of others, and gossip.
I have a big problem with judging and criticizing people. I am a very severe person with myself and others.
When I disagree with what someone is doing I cannot help but judge and I end up saying bad things about it.
Do you have any advice to help me stop doing this ? This has become a kind of a reflex really. I find myself judging others and then I realize it. Like it is almost automatical. I really want to stop doing this.
Do you have any advice to change my thinking pattern?
Thank you !
when you find yourself judging others practice metta and look for the ill-will toward them and turn the judgement inward and look for the apparent fault in on yourself.
it maybe hard to keep your lips closed but if you would not say it to their face should you say it at all?
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He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them.
But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side, if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion …
He must be able to hear them from persons who actually believe them … he must know them in their most plausible and persuasive form.John Stuart Mill