I keep a close eye on my self and my inner balance troughout the days (mental - feeling or head and stomach
). And I use my own "perfect" balance as a "tool" to make a better inner balance in the other person i communicate with. Whenever i experience a sense of imbalance i myself - i check it out at once, make adjustments according to situation, and keep on like that. Like to mention that i have quite a few years of experience in dealing with "very difficult people" , and have benefited a whole lot (never attacked or been threaten), and of course, learned a lot about my self.
Did mention this for my ajhan today - not absolutly sure if he understand fully what i was trying to explain. I will ask him tomorrow