befriend wrote:so dont worry about the thought you werent mindful of and just keep practicing mindfulness on and off the cushion.
The process as I understand it is:
Contact: with said person happens.
Feeling: Anger arises.
Craving: I wish said person would not do that or I wish said person would just die.
Grasping: I will see to it that he doesn't! Or feeling angry is bad so I will avoid feeling angry.
Becoming: I aggressively act towards said person or I act to avert the negative thoughts.
Birth: A situation occurs between you and said person or negative thoughts averted but they keep returning.
Suffering: You and said person are entangled in social retribution and hurt one another or the returning negative thoughts frustrate / annoy / pester you.
This is likely an over-simplification, but it is likely if you are trying to be mindful in your daily life that ignorant of the feeling arising you realize in the middle of grasping that "wait a second, damn it! I am not being mindful". I typically make note of where I was in the entangled mess of thoughts, or in this case "planning, planning, planning" to create an objective awareness of it. Upon successful mindfulness you will see that it ceases just as it arises. And return your concentration to the task at hand.
Is that more helpful?