If one is talking to accomplished practicing Buddhists, I'd agree. But forums attract beginners, and those who have questions that haven't even begun yet. Sometimes it is the ninth time this month that the same question came up. Sometimes it is so far from Buddhist understanding that it's hard to come up with a kind answer. Sometimes I wonder if the OP is just being provocative on purpose.octathlon wrote:....Intention is more important than how skillfully they speak. It's nice to get a gentle reminder but sometimes that isn't enough to get through our self-delusion and we need it a little "plainer".
Even if the speaker's intention is to hurt, we could look to see if there is any truth in it that we could learn from. But even if the intention is to hurt and there is no truth to learn from, we can (at least attempt to ) practice equanimity.
Skillfullness and content become as important as intention, IMHO. Even those who intend to speak plainly can do it politely and with kindness. In my perception, a harsh lesson from a kind teacher can be remembered for a long time and stands a chance of being retained. A valuable lesson delivered by a harsh person risks being discarded as just harsh words from a (xxxxxx - insert your own comment).
For myself, I try to ask, 'Which Brahma-Vihara" is my post. Am I being kind and gentle, compassionate, joyful for the accomplishments of another, and/or equanimous? Sadly, I don't do as well as I could and need to. Gladly, at least now I see it and can try to correct it before hitting the SEND button
But these are just my views, as valuable as any others and as elegible for being just ignored I think a better source would be at the link Anna posted above http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
Hoo...who talks a good line but stuggles every day with about all of it