‘Unfriending’ annoying people hurts their feelings

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‘Unfriending’ annoying people hurts their feelings

Postby plwk » Wed Feb 06, 2013 1:13 am

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“Unfriend” someone on Facebook whose posts you find annoying? A new study finds that that person may avoid you, forever. More here
Bhikkhus, if you develop and make much this one thing,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.
What is it? It is recollecting the Enlightened One.
If this single thing is recollected and made much,
it invariably leads to weariness, cessation, appeasement, realization and extinction.

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Re: ‘Unfriending’ annoying people hurts their feelings

Postby Paul Davy » Wed Feb 06, 2013 1:51 am

Greetings,

An alternative is simply to remove people from your notifications and news feed.

That way you won't see any of their activity unless you go to their wall.

If the problem is them getting on your wall, you can create customised exclusions which Facebook remembers and applies to your next post.

There's many alternatives...

Metta,
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What is the final conviction that comes when radical attention is razor-edge sharp? That the object of the mind is mind-made (manomaya). (Ven. Ñāṇananda)

Having understood name-and-form, which is a product of prolificity,
And which is the root of all malady within and without,
He is released from bondage to the root of all maladies,
That Such-like-one is truly known as 'the one who has understood'.
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Re: ‘Unfriending’ annoying people hurts their feelings

Postby Cittasanto » Wed Feb 06, 2013 5:41 pm

It also maybe the case that it is an application, and they don't realise (as I have done, and happens from time to time too me). just block the app. or change the settings to not show that app on your wall if it is one you use.
“Mendicants, these two [types of persons] defame the Tathāgata.
(The mendicants asked) What are the two [types of persons]?
(The Lord Buddha responded) The malicious, or the inwardly angry, and the one with (blind) faith or the one who holds things incorrectly.
Mendicants, these two [types of persons] defame the Tathāgata.”
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Re: ‘Unfriending’ annoying people hurts their feelings

Postby Mawkish1983 » Thu Feb 07, 2013 5:58 am

I cannot help but get annoyed at things like this... it's just a website. Back when the internet as the reserve of nerds, we learnt how to use it responsibly. We grew a thick skin and avoided the online dangers. Normal people viewed the internet as the domain of nerds. Since Facebook came along, absolutely everyone is online, updating their statuses whilst sitting in the toilet, interacting with their real life friends via this new medium. Unlike the nerds, these normal people don't seem to realise that it is just a website, and they don't have to use it.

Rant, complete with unfair and untrue generalisations.

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Re: ‘Unfriending’ annoying people hurts their feelings

Postby chownah » Thu Feb 14, 2013 6:23 am

"unfriending": dukkha for the 21st century


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