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Hello from Pennsylvania.

Postby Skribble » Sun Dec 30, 2012 12:46 pm

Hello everyone. My name is john, i am 26 and i have been reading and learning about buddhism for about the past five years. Lately my life has become incredibly stressful due to health problems with my mother. She cares for my handicapped sister and since her health problems began a few months ago has been un able to care for my sister any more. I live far from them and try to help as much as i can, as do a few other family members. But things are just falling apart and soon i fair that there will be no one to care for my sister and also that the stress of all this will cause my mothers health to decline. This has all been weighing on me heavily and my anger/depression is very intense to say the least. I actually woke up this morning and got online to find a temple near my home so that i could find a teacher to help me learn how to deal with how these issues affect me. But there are no temples within 75 miles of me. But i did find this place. And maybe its a good place to start. At the very least it feels good to vent a little. Im sorry that i didnt find this site when i was in better spirits. But i am glad i found it.
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Re: Hello from Pennsylvania.

Postby Ben » Sun Dec 30, 2012 12:59 pm

Greetings John and welcome to Dhammawheel.
I am sorry for the situation that you find yourself in.
Certainly do what you can to assist your family, but whatever you do, be sure to look after yourself. That means, but no means limited to, Dhamma practice. I hope that during this turbulent time it will be your rock and anchor.
Don't be afraid to ask your extended family for assistance. I also recommend that you research (if you haven't already done so) for support groups, networks, and whether there is some available institutional care and government subsidy.
Wishing you all the best,

Ben
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Re: Hello from Pennsylvania.

Postby Cittasanto » Sun Dec 30, 2012 1:12 pm

Welcome Aboard John :hello:
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Re: Hello from Pennsylvania.

Postby bodom » Sun Dec 30, 2012 2:10 pm

Welcome John and i hope things turn around for the better for you and your mom soon!

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The heart of the path is SO simple. No need for long explanations. Give up clinging to love and hate, just rest with things as they are. That is all I do in my own practice. Do not try to become anything. Do not make yourself into anything. Do not be a meditator. Do not become enlightened. When you sit, let it be. When you walk, let it be. Grasp at nothing. Resist nothing. Of course, there are dozens of meditation techniques to develop samadhi and many kinds of vipassana. But it all comes back to this - just let it all be. Step over here where it is cool, out of the battle. - Ajahn Chah
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Re: Hello from Pennsylvania.

Postby cooran » Sun Dec 30, 2012 8:09 pm

Welcome John - I hope we can be of support in your practice. :group: Not knowing the community resources available where your mother and sister live, I can only second Ben's post.

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Re: Hello from Pennsylvania.

Postby mikenz66 » Sun Dec 30, 2012 8:15 pm

Welcome John,

If you have not tried this directory yet, it might be worth a look:
http://www.buddhanet.info/wbd/

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Re: Hello from Pennsylvania.

Postby David N. Snyder » Sun Dec 30, 2012 8:25 pm

Welcome to Dhamma Wheel!

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